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Title: The frustration of contrariness
Post by: Nick on February 11, 2013, 09:48:02 PM
Right, Mrs Nick would NEVER accept that I might be right about ANYTHING. ANYTHING AT ALL.

For the last 2 years she has had redundancy hanging over her head. I advised her to get legal advice via the union or anyone. Because I suggested this she refused. It was ever thus  noooo:

I realise in retrospect that if I had said "steer clear of lawyers" she would have been down to Sue, Grabbit and Runn like a shot, but no.

SHe now tells me that she has been made redundant as of July 31st. Bad terms and HR will not talk to her.Nor will her boss. SHe is 58 and a half years old.

I suggested she gets some legal advice. I got shouted at  noooo:

What is wrong with the wumman???   Banghead Banghead Banghead Banghead Banghead Banghead Banghead
Title: Re: The frustration of contrariness
Post by: Pirate on February 11, 2013, 09:49:25 PM
It's not her...it's you...
Title: Re: The frustration of contrariness
Post by: apc2010 on February 11, 2013, 09:53:06 PM
Right, Mrs Nick would NEVER accept that I might be right about ANYTHING. ANYTHING AT ALL.

For the last 2 years she has had redundancy hanging over her head. I advised her to get legal advice via the union or anyone. Because I suggested this she refused. It was ever thus  noooo:

I realise in retrospect that if I had said "steer clear of lawyers" she would have been down to Sue, Grabbit and Runn like a shot, but no.

SHe now tells me that she has been made redundant as of July 31st. Bad terms and HR will not talk to her.Nor will her boss. SHe is 58 and a half years old.

I suggested she gets some legal advice. I got shouted at  noooo:

What is wrong with the wumman???   Banghead Banghead Banghead Banghead Banghead Banghead Banghead

Riding the alimony pony........... noooo:
Title: Re: The frustration of contrariness
Post by: Pirate on February 11, 2013, 09:55:01 PM
18 months to retirement...Nick has sold his flat in London and is millionaire... rubschin:
Title: Re: The frustration of contrariness
Post by: Darwins Selection on February 11, 2013, 10:09:38 PM
Mrs Nick would NEVER accept that I might be right about ANYTHING. ANYTHING AT ALL.

She has a point. . .
Title: Re: The frustration of contrariness
Post by: Nick on February 11, 2013, 10:19:38 PM
[serious]  This is the Commons. She is sitting on bout £800000 of property + my son + rental income +redundancy and REFUSES to TAKE FUCKING FUCKING LEGAL ADVICE  cussing: cussing: cussing: cussing: cussing: [SERIOUS]
Title: Re: The frustration of contrariness
Post by: Steve on February 11, 2013, 10:23:05 PM
Would legal advice really have made any difference? 

Much sympathy to Mrs N, redundancy is a bastard experience.
Title: Re: The frustration of contrariness
Post by: Pirate on February 11, 2013, 10:31:30 PM
[serious]  This is the Commons. She is sitting on bout £800000 of property + my son + rental income +redundancy and REFUSES to TAKE FUCKING FUCKING LEGAL ADVICE  cussing: cussing: cussing: cussing: cussing: [SERIOUS]

Sorry Nick...didn't look to see what section this was in...but you cant seriously think that anyone in here could give you any sound advice on what you should do next...
Title: Re: The frustration of contrariness
Post by: Nick on February 11, 2013, 11:42:44 PM
Would legal advice really have made any difference? 

Much sympathy to Mrs N, redundancy is a bastard experience.
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I did well out of it, but I had free legal advice
Title: Re: The frustration of contrariness
Post by: Uncle Mort on February 12, 2013, 06:41:01 AM
Is there a third party (mutual friend or somesuch) that you could pass advice through?
Title: Re: The frustration of contrariness
Post by: Barman on February 12, 2013, 06:44:45 AM
Is there a third party (mutual friend or somesuch) that you could pass advice through?

The Boy!  Thumbs:
Title: Re: The frustration of contrariness
Post by: Darwins Selection on February 12, 2013, 09:13:22 AM
[serious]  This is the Commons. She is sitting on bout £800000 of property + my son + rental income +redundancy and REFUSES to TAKE FUCKING FUCKING LEGAL ADVICE  cussing: cussing: cussing: cussing: cussing: [SERIOUS]

Sorry I'm sure. Evidence led me to believe you were exempted from the usual Commons rules.

Please use [serious] [/serious] for clarity, even in here.

With reference to your query, anything you suggest will be treated with contempt and dismissed (much as it is in here).

You need a neutral third party, trusted by Mrs Nick, to make her see sense.

It seems unlikely, but does she have a girly best friend who would allow you close enough to explain the problem?
Title: Re: The frustration of contrariness
Post by: Barman on February 12, 2013, 12:12:13 PM
[serious]  This is the Commons. She is sitting on bout £800000 of property + my son + rental income +redundancy and REFUSES to TAKE FUCKING FUCKING LEGAL ADVICE  cussing: cussing: cussing: cussing: cussing: [SERIOUS]

Sorry I'm sure. Evidence led me to believe you were exempted from the usual Commons rules.

Please use [serious] [/serious] for clarity, even in here.

With reference to your query, anything you suggest will be treated with contempt and dismissed (much as it is in here).

You need a neutral third party, trusted by Mrs Nick, to make her see sense.

It seems unlikely, but does she have a girly best friend who would allow you close enough to explain the problem?

happy001
Title: Re: The frustration of contrariness
Post by: Snoopy on February 12, 2013, 01:24:11 PM
1) Don't tell her you've sold your flat.
2) Remember that advice is meant to be given but seldom taken.
3) Count yourself well out of it all ~ tell her you too have financial problems and cannot help.
4) Be pleased that you can now say "I told you so" ~ a small but immensely satisfying inner glow will result.
5) Withdraw from the whole thing & let her get on with it ..... A muttered "Yeah ~ Life can be a bitch" is not inappropriate.
Title: Re: The frustration of contrariness
Post by: beerhead on February 12, 2013, 01:27:23 PM
Wot Snoopy said, but think No4, don't say it !
Title: Re: The frustration of contrariness
Post by: Barman on February 12, 2013, 01:37:12 PM
1) Don't tell her you've sold your flat.
2) Remember that advice is meant to be given but seldom taken.
3) Count yourself well out of it all ~ tell her you too have financial problems and cannot help.
4) Be pleased that you can now say "I told you so" ~ a small but immensely satisfying inner glow will result.
5) Withdraw from the whole thing & let her get on with it ..... A muttered "Yeah ~ Life can be a bitch" is not inappropriate.

worthy:
Title: Re: The frustration of contrariness
Post by: Darwins Selection on February 12, 2013, 02:03:36 PM
1) Don't tell her you've sold your flat.
2) Remember that advice is meant to be given but seldom taken.
3) Count yourself well out of it all ~ tell her you too have financial problems and cannot help.
4) Be pleased that you can now say "I told you so" ~ a small but immensely satisfying inner glow will result.
5) Withdraw from the whole thing & let her get on with it ..... A muttered "Yeah ~ Life can be a bitch" is not inappropriate.

Correct on all counts.

As Mr Head says, sotto voce on item 4)  ;)