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Come Inside... => The Snug => Topic started by: Nick on January 30, 2008, 09:46:02 AM
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For some time now, [perhaps a couple of years if truth be told, I have become increasingly bored with almost all aspects of my life. Get up, make breakfast, take to school, washing, shopping, cooking, working. Life feels like a never ending treadmill and everything feels increasingly colourless and lacking in interest.
Am I having some sort of mid life crisis? Has anyone else felt this? Does anyone else here currently feel this?
Depressed of the North West cry:
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LL says that this is the middle years where everything is a bit dull. Apparently then you get a bit older and you start to behave like a loon and everything is fun again!
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Maybe it relates to the age of your children and the attendant responsibiliites. I am older than LL by some years. I want it all to be over.
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Dear Depressed of the North West,
You need stimulus. Have you considered an affair to introduce some variety into your life? I have, in the past, found this to be an excellent method of reviving flagging spirits. Discretion is of course essential.
Employ an Au Pair and she will not only be available for extra curricular activities but will also take over many of the chores that "Bug" you. Careful selection of suitable applicants is important.
Failing that I suggest placing your head in the oven. It won't do you any harm as Natural Gas is not lethal and, if appropriately timed may send a message to your nearest and dearest. Of course if you have an electric oven things may get a little warm so timing if of the essence.
Running away to join a circus is not reccommended.
Actually I know how you feel. Been there and am currently there again. Get out more.
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happy100
Weekend away with Mrs Nick?
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. . then you get a bit older and you start to behave like a loon and everything is fun again!
It is true.
I have been in this state all this century (and quite a bit of the previous one). whistle:
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happy100
Weekend away with Mrs Nick?
Send Mrs Nick & Boy away for a week and have the house to yourself would be better eveilgrin:
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Dear Depressed of the North West,
You need stimulus. Have you considered an affair to introduce some variety into your life? I have, in the past, found this to be an excellent method of reviving flagging spirits. Discretion is of course essential.
Employ an Au Pair and she will not only be available for extra curricular activities but will also take over many of the chores that "Bug" you. Careful selection of suitable applicants is important.
Failing that I suggest placing your head in the oven. It won't do you any harm as Natural Gas is not lethal and, if appropriately timed may send a message to your nearest and dearest. Of course if you have an electric oven things may get a little warm so timing if of the essence.
Running away to join a circus is not reccommended.
Actually I know how you feel. Been there and am currently there again. Get out more.
Sound advice. As my doc said, "If you had a heart attack you wouldn't try to treat yourself." One or two here know via PM that I am currently on medication for depression. The illness that dare not speak its name. Not good.
And Wenchy. Nice idea, wrong time I fear. But perhaps we should farm the Boy out to the rellies for a weekend and go somewhere nice for some R&R. cry:
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happy100
Weekend away with Mrs Nick?
Send Mrs Nick & Boy away for a week and have the house to yourself would be better eveilgrin:
Not good. Trust me, I know.
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Dear Depressed of the North West,
You need stimulus. Have you considered an affair to introduce some variety into your life? I have, in the past, found this to be an excellent method of reviving flagging spirits. Discretion is of course essential.
Employ an Au Pair and she will not only be available for extra curricular activities but will also take over many of the chores that "Bug" you. Careful selection of suitable applicants is important.
Failing that I suggest placing your head in the oven. It won't do you any harm as Natural Gas is not lethal and, if appropriately timed may send a message to your nearest and dearest. Of course if you have an electric oven things may get a little warm so timing if of the essence.
Running away to join a circus is not reccommended.
Actually I know how you feel. Been there and am currently there again. Get out more.
Sound advice. As my doc said, "If you had a heart attack you wouldn't try to treat yourself." One or two here know via PM that I am currently on medication for depression. The illness that dare not speak its name. Not good.
And Wenchy. Nice idea, wrong time I fear. But perhaps we should farm the Boy out to the rellies for a weekend and go somewhere nice for some R&R. cry:
I honestly think that would be a good idea. Everyone needs a break from the routine now and again. I know I'm not as old as you but it hits me badly too sometimes and you just need a shake up and a break from the norm and suddenly things seem much more manageable again, the routine doesn't seem quite that dismal. I'm off to Spain next week for a long weekend. I just have my fingers crossed that I am going to make it that far without losing the plot.
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Cheer up! It might never happen etc! happy088
No need for bad language just trying to help.
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Dear Depressed of the North West,
You need stimulus. Have you considered an affair to introduce some variety into your life? I have, in the past, found this to be an excellent method of reviving flagging spirits. Discretion is of course essential.
Employ an Au Pair and she will not only be available for extra curricular activities but will also take over many of the chores that "Bug" you. Careful selection of suitable applicants is important.
Failing that I suggest placing your head in the oven. It won't do you any harm as Natural Gas is not lethal and, if appropriately timed may send a message to your nearest and dearest. Of course if you have an electric oven things may get a little warm so timing if of the essence.
Running away to join a circus is not reccommended.
Actually I know how you feel. Been there and am currently there again. Get out more.
Sound advice. As my doc said, "If you had a heart attack you wouldn't try to treat yourself." One or two here know via PM that I am currently on medication for depression. The illness that dare not speak its name. Not good.
And Wenchy. Nice idea, wrong time I fear. But perhaps we should farm the Boy out to the rellies for a weekend and go somewhere nice for some R&R. cry:
I honestly think that would be a good idea. Everyone needs a break from the routine now and again. I know I'm not as old as you but it hits me badly too sometimes and you just need a shake up and a break from the norm and suddenly things seem much more manageable again, the routine doesn't seem quite that dismal. I'm off to Spain next week for a long weekend. I just have my fingers crossed that I am going to make it that far without losing the plot.
What plot?
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Cheer up! It might never happen etc! happy088
No need for bad language just trying to help.
That is the problem I think.
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Dear Depressed of the North West,
You need stimulus. Have you considered an affair to introduce some variety into your life? I have, in the past, found this to be an excellent method of reviving flagging spirits. Discretion is of course essential.
Employ an Au Pair and she will not only be available for extra curricular activities but will also take over many of the chores that "Bug" you. Careful selection of suitable applicants is important.
Failing that I suggest placing your head in the oven. It won't do you any harm as Natural Gas is not lethal and, if appropriately timed may send a message to your nearest and dearest. Of course if you have an electric oven things may get a little warm so timing if of the essence.
Running away to join a circus is not reccommended.
Actually I know how you feel. Been there and am currently there again. Get out more.
Sound advice. As my doc said, "If you had a heart attack you wouldn't try to treat yourself." One or two here know via PM that I am currently on medication for depression. The illness that dare not speak its name. Not good.
And Wenchy. Nice idea, wrong time I fear. But perhaps we should farm the Boy out to the rellies for a weekend and go somewhere nice for some R&R. cry:
I honestly think that would be a good idea. Everyone needs a break from the routine now and again. I know I'm not as old as you but it hits me badly too sometimes and you just need a shake up and a break from the norm and suddenly things seem much more manageable again, the routine doesn't seem quite that dismal. I'm off to Spain next week for a long weekend. I just have my fingers crossed that I am going to make it that far without losing the plot.
What plot?
Drop my basket, have a mental, be put up on bricks, take to my bed with a bottle of vodka. That sort of plot losing.
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Oh dear. Who else shall be flushed out now?
And What is OVER?
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Oh dear. Who else shall be flushed out now?
And What is OVER?
Ahh that refered to Christmas and my Birthday what is generally known as the Wenchy Season. sad24:
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You were in season? Snoopy never mentioned it!
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Banghead
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You were in season? Snoopy never mentioned it!
eyes: Somethings a hound keeps to himself.
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Especially in the absence of canine viagra
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You were in season? Snoopy never mentioned it!
eyes: Somethings a hound keeps to himself.
eeek: I feel violated! eeek:
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But you weren't
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Nick ...... You need an adventure. Buy a small boat, take up hang gliding, go fishing or something
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I think "something" is the best option there. But what?
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I usually go fishing.
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I usually go fishing.
Bloody good idea, although unfortunately I have not been for years> cry:
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That's called constipation
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You were in season? Snoopy never mentioned it!
eyes: Somethings a hound keeps to himself.
eeek: I feel violated! eeek:
Snoopy can be quite stealthy you know. whistle:
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I think "something" is the best option there. But what?
A radio-controlled helicopter... ;)
Can I have it when you crash it please?
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A new haircut?
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At least I have some hair!
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At least I have some hair!
Not shaved that beard "designer stubble" off yet?
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LL says that this is the middle years where everything is a bit dull. Apparently then you get a bit older and you start to behave like a loon and everything is fun again!
This is true - exactly what I said just the other evening.
Seriously Nick I think we all do know how you feel - and empathize happy100
Nothing 'seriously' wrong but you just feel a bit 'bored, bored, bored, bored' and question the meaning of being here - eh?
How to get over it, small treats work - nothing radically life or finance changing (unless you are BM of course who I swear is going to bankrupt me one of these fine days with his toy fetish) but try something such as :-
Buy yourself a REALLY nice bottle of wine and savor and enjoy (you don't have to share as its you that needs cheering up!)
Book yourself in for a massage (yes I am being serious) at a reputable parlour (not miss whiplash I hasten to add) and enjoy some calming physical non sexual healing
Come on the VP and find out how much you are really cared about - did that work?
Get on a plane and come visit BM in CY - oh my goodness what did I just say eeek:
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The trouble with depression is that doing that 'something' is very difficult. Although you might rail at the tedium of life and wish things would change depression acts as a 'blanket' stopping you from taking or making opportunities.
As you can guess I too suffer from depression and have had treatment in the past. I stopped taking the pills because they made me feel detached and emotionless.
I don’t have an answer, I try to enjoy the good days and endure the bad.
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Agreed
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Uncle Mort has hit the nail fair and square. Valium is some help with very bad days but yes it does leave me feeling very detatched.
The Reggie Perrin method often seems like a good idea .... but I did the reinvention bit 20 years ago and have ended up in the same place ~ as did Reggie I recall.
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I am off
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Hope you can swim.
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The Internet, as ever provides the solutions. Here is a 10 point plan to make you happy. I shall be trying it myself forthwith.
After all, a paper mache project must solve anyones problems and renting a belly dancing video has to be a winner. whacky115
http://www.dumblittleman.com/2008/01/10-things-you-can-do-to-cheer-yourself.html
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I just spent a week in hospital and resalised that there are many in a worse state than me.
That cheered me for all of 48 hours. confused:
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there are many in a worse state than me.
Not Powys! scared2:
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At least I have some hair!
Not shaved that beard "designer stubble" off yet?
Would you want him anywhere near a sharp object. Even an electric shaver has serious risks when bombarded by Nick-o-rays scared2:
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there are many in a worse state than me.
Not Powys! scared2:
Ynys Mon ..... they are all barking mad there.
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The trouble with depression is that doing that 'something' is very difficult. Although you might rail at the tedium of life and wish things would change depression acts as a 'blanket' stopping you from taking or making opportunities.
As you can guess I too suffer from depression and have had treatment in the past. I stopped taking the pills because they made me feel detached and emotionless.
I don’t have an answer, I try to enjoy the good days and endure the bad.
Like many, been there, done that. And like Uncle Mort, I don't know the answer either, but Uncle Mort's "enjoy the good days and endure the bad" isn't a bad maxim (apologies if that sounds trite)
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Nick,
sorry you are feeling so low at the moment. Routine is awful in many ways but also quite reassuring in others - as long as you have the ability and desire to change things around , as and when needed and the willpower to see it through.
I am taking a week off from 'my routine' this week. The intention was to rest , relax and enjoy as I was getting quite stressed out with work and a pre- adolescent attitudal child evil:
My daughter is with her father this week and I am meant to be taking it easy. So far I have decorated the living room (painted and wallpapered), put up new light fittings, completed 2 reports for work which I know I will need by next week, cooked for 6 of my friends (amidst the chaos of decorating) and today is only Thursday. The week is nearly gone and I am feeling no more chilled out now from my routine as I was last week. I am my own worst enemy cry:
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Another day.
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Nick,
sorry you are feeling so low at the moment. Routine is awful in many ways but also quite reassuring in others - as long as you have the ability and desire to change things around , as and when needed and the willpower to see it through.
I am taking a week off from 'my routine' this week. The intention was to rest , relax and enjoy as I was getting quite stressed out with work and a pre- adolescent attitudal child evil:
My daughter is with her father this week and I am meant to be taking it easy. So far I have decorated the living room (painted and wallpapered), put up new light fittings, completed 2 reports for work which I know I will need by next week, cooked for 6 of my friends (amidst the chaos of decorating) and today is only Thursday. The week is nearly gone and I am feeling no more chilled out now from my routine as I was last week. I am my own worst enemy cry:
You don't fancy the job of Mrs Snoopy#3 do you?
Thought not but felt I had to ask. noooo:
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You don't fancy the job of Mrs Snoopy#3 do you?
Thought not but felt I had to ask. noooo:
Don't think that would help your recuperation much dear Snoops lol:
Unless of course you are looking to fast track the rest of your days by bringing soooooo much more chaos into your life than currently exists scared2:
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Nick,
sorry you are feeling so low at the moment. Routine is awful in many ways but also quite reassuring in others - as long as you have the ability and desire to change things around , as and when needed and the willpower to see it through.
I am taking a week off from 'my routine' this week. The intention was to rest , relax and enjoy as I was getting quite stressed out with work and a pre- adolescent attitudal child evil:
My daughter is with her father this week and I am meant to be taking it easy. So far I have decorated the living room (painted and wallpapered), put up new light fittings, completed 2 reports for work which I know I will need by next week, cooked for 6 of my friends (amidst the chaos of decorating) and today is only Thursday. The week is nearly gone and I am feeling no more chilled out now from my routine as I was last week. I am my own worst enemy cry:
You don't fancy the job of Mrs Snoopy#3 do you?
Thought not but felt I had to ask. noooo:
You could at least have waited until Valentines Day.