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Come Inside... => Saloon Bar => Topic started by: Miss Demeanour on December 10, 2008, 12:52:19 PM
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One of my friends has just phoned me in pieces....yep you guess it - bloke related noooo:
She has been with him for 2 years. They don't live together and only see each other about once a week as he is very busy at work ::). He works for a well known company as their sports editor sleep017
He had borrowed her laptop at the weekend and foolishly stored his passwords. Now fair to say she was suspicious of him before but logged onto his email account and found all the evidence she had hoped would not be there.
They had been planning a lovely christmas day together but he had to go and visit family on boxing day a few hours away - or so she thought. Apprently he is actually filming a porn movie on Boxing day . She believes he is doing the filming rather than starring in it but it is all rather immaterial.
Dilemma -
Does she hold out til Christmas day, get her presents and then boot him out
Does she put in a false 'cv' to star in the film and then turn up on Boxing day to humiliate him publicly
Does she forward the material to his work email account where it will hit all the firewalls and filters and be investigated by the powers that be
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Just to complicate matters they had just put an offer in on a lovely house and were due to move in there in the New Year angry041:
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Women always snoop and find things to upset them. noooo:
There will be a perfectly reasonable explanation.
Ditch him right away and put it down to experience, even from the male perspective he is a complete shite
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AND what is this shite about?
Now fair to say she was suspicious of him before
. They don't live together, they are not married ~ the man is free to do what he wants ~ what suspicions has she any right to hold?
Never pry into things that belong to other people. Knowing his password is no excuse for delving into his mailbox.
On the other hand if he had put the stuff on her computer about filming porn movies etc then perhaps he was trying to tell her something.
Some people just send a fax saying Goodbye ~ other like to shift the blame for the break up to their "partners".
Personally I have always accepted the blame, be it mine or not, but then I was brought up to be a gentleman in these matters.
IMO she should tell him to sling his hook now. That she hasn't means she doesn't really want to.
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Umm...
They didn't really have a relationship if she only saw him once a week...
Buying a house together was ridiculous under those circumstances.
I'm guessing that what will happen (whatever we or you say) is that the silly girl will forgive him and they'll be back together after Xmas...
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Tbh I think she was / is a complete muppet over him.
I know we've all been like that at some stage in our lives over someone or in Nick's case something ( ;D) , but she was given enough warning prior to this.
But the blinkers have been well and truly in place until now. She is talking revenge but the fact that she is talking about it just means she is deferring taking any immediate action noooo:
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Tbh I think she was / is a complete muppet over him.
I know we've all been like that at some stage in our lives over someone or in Nick's case something ( ;D) , but she was given enough warning prior to this.
But the blinkers have been well and truly in place until now. She is talking revenge but the fact that she is talking about it just means she is deferring taking any immediate action noooo:
Take her a round couple of bottles, sit with her and be a proper mate.
Tell her more or less what you said above.
Persuade her that plotted revenge will make it worse (don't mention she is probably not bright enough to succeed)
If she still goes back to him, step away gently. .
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You could also remind her that the only good thing about self pity ~ it that you know it is being done properly.
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To be fair to him, if he is just filming rather than starring is there an issue? Or are we talking porn in the home movie just for kicks sense? It may just be me but he isn't actually being unfaithful or is it the fact that he lied to her that is the problem?
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Take her a round couple of bottles, sit with her and be a proper mate.
Tell her more or less what you said above.
Persuade her that plotted revenge will make it worse (don't mention she is probably not bright enough to succeed)
If she still goes back to him, step away gently. .
I have said this to her today and I will be there this evening with said provisions for a repeat of the same conversation.
She has seen enough to my mind to make any necessary decisions she needs to make - but they are not my decisions they are hers. There is no point to taking any other action - does revenge ever serve the purpose you want it to anyway- it doesn't ever repair any damage to my mind just prolongs the situation. I might need to buy her an honourary axe though lol:
It's just the Why questions I hate???? Why did he do this...why wasn't I enough ??? etc etc etc.
He just frickin did cussing:
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To be fair to him, if he is just filming rather than starring is there an issue? Or are we talking porn in the home movie just for kicks sense? It may just be me but he isn't actually being unfaithful or is it the fact that he lied to her that is the problem?
Agreed and TBH if he is simply making/directing/operating the camera/watching the proceedings or financing the making of a porn movie that doesn't involve either him or her in "the action" he is simply earning money and possible getting a few thrills (but that is unlikely given that nobody gets involved in making such movies except for the money). Where do the lies come in? Has she ever asked him "Do you make porn movies?" and has he said that he doesn't?
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Take her a round couple of bottles, sit with her and be a proper mate.
Tell her more or less what you said above.
Persuade her that plotted revenge will make it worse (don't mention she is probably not bright enough to succeed)
If she still goes back to him, step away gently. .
I have said this to her today and I will be there this evening with said provisions for a repeat of the same conversation.
She has seen enough to my mind to make any necessary decisions she needs to make - but they are not my decisions they are hers. There is no point to taking any other action - does revenge ever serve the purpose you want it to anyway- it doesn't ever repair any damage to my mind just prolongs the situation. I might need to buy her an honourary axe though lol:
It's just the Why questions I hate???? Why did he do this...why wasn't I enough ??? etc etc etc.
He just frickin did cussing:
As to the why questions ~ see my quote about self pity.
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To be fair to him, if he is just filming rather than starring is there an issue? Or are we talking porn in the home movie just for kicks sense? It may just be me but he isn't actually being unfaithful or is it the fact that he lied to her that is the problem?
Agreed and TBH if he is simply making/directing/operating the camera/watching the proceedings or financing the making of a porn movie that doesn't involve either him or her in "the action" he is simply earning money and possible getting a few thrills (but that is unlikely given that nobody gets involved in making such movies except for the money). Where do the lies come in? Has she ever asked him "Do you make porn movies?" and has he said that he doesn't?
OK not so much lies as omition of detail.
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Need to know basis only ~ obviously freddy:
I mean ~ how do you say "Look darling, all this money I am about to invest in our new home ..... well it comes from a rather shady deal I'm involved in." without her going totally over the top ~ as the evidence we have shows that is exactly what she would do.
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To be fair to him, if he is just filming rather than starring is there an issue? Or are we talking porn in the home movie just for kicks sense? It may just be me but he isn't actually being unfaithful or is it the fact that he lied to her that is the problem?
She doesn't know the full scope of his role - but he is definately organising the whole event. He had about 10 cv's from various models explaining what they were prepared to do and not do on the day and his responses to these.
The fact that he had explained he was going to visit his dear sick mother on Boxing Day and she had offered him the use of her car so he could travel around easier I think just compounds her sense of stupiidity. From what I understand some of the emails give details of events when he has previously said he has been at work (the proper job) etc.
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He just frickin did cussing:
Precisely... tell her to get over it... happy088
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To be fair to him, if he is just filming rather than starring is there an issue? Or are we talking porn in the home movie just for kicks sense? It may just be me but he isn't actually being unfaithful or is it the fact that he lied to her that is the problem?
She doesn't know the full scope of his role - but he is definately organising the whole event. He had about 10 cv's from various models explaining what they were prepared to do and not do on the day and his responses to these.
The fact that he had explained he was going to visit his dear sick mother on Boxing Day and she had offered him the use of her car so he could travel around easier I think just compounds her sense of stupiidity. From what I understand some of the emails give details of events when he has previously said he has been at work (the proper job) etc.
Perhaps Snoopy and I should have a look at these CVs... just to give a more informed opinion of the whole thing like...? whistle:
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Has anyone ever told you that you can be over generous BM lol:
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lol: lol: lol: Nice try BM.
I knew a guy once who spent a lot of money trying to be a film producer so that he could get at the wimmin. Frankly for all his Mercs and Money I've "pulled" more on me push bike than he ever managed.
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What is this shite:?
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Go and pack
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sad24:
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Has anyone ever told you that you can be over generous BM lol:
No, never... noooo:
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To be fair to him, if he is just filming rather than starring is there an issue? Or are we talking porn in the home movie just for kicks sense? It may just be me but he isn't actually being unfaithful or is it the fact that he lied to her that is the problem?
She doesn't know the full scope of his role - but he is definately organising the whole event. He had about 10 cv's from various models explaining what they were prepared to do and not do on the day and his responses to these.
The fact that he had explained he was going to visit his dear sick mother on Boxing Day and she had offered him the use of her car so he could travel around easier I think just compounds her sense of stupiidity. From what I understand some of the emails give details of events when he has previously said he has been at work (the proper job) etc.
Ahhh, see the lies would be the biggest problem with me. I don't tolerate it.
She needs to get rid and revenge, as you have said is pointless. Do be careful what you say though, because as we all know there is always a possibility she will get back together with him and then well, it's just awkward at best.
You have my sympathy, I hate dealing with the fall out from these sorts of things, I'm never too sure what way to play in it real life.
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Stick of rock eyes:
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Leave it till Boxing Day morning,then say she needs the car for something or other (lots of time to think of a reason) but will be only too pleased to drop him off at his mum's house/horspital, and pick him up agin later.
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Leave it till Boxing Day morning,then say she needs the car for something or other (lots of time to think of a reason) but will be only too pleased to drop him off at his mum's house/horspital, and pick him up agin later.
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Most excellent! happy088
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Cept his mum lives in Nottingham and us in London !!!
In the meantime she has confronted him with the information she has discovered - he has denied all knowledge and then he stormed out saying there is no trust anymore. She is now single noooo:
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Cept his mum lives in Nottingham and us in London !!!
In the meantime she has confronted him with the information she has discovered - he has denied all knowledge and then he stormed out saying there is no trust anymore. She is now single noooo:
She'll apologise and beg him to come back... mark my words... like... whistle:
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Cept his mum lives in Nottingham and us in London !!!
In the meantime she has confronted him with the information she has discovered - he has denied all knowledge and then he stormed out saying there is no trust anymore. She is now single noooo:
Oh dear. Not a nice thing to happen just before Christmas. However, I suspect BM is right. Will she be drunk dialing this evening? noooo:
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Cept his mum lives in Nottingham and us in London !!!
In the meantime she has confronted him with the information she has discovered - he has denied all knowledge and then he stormed out saying there is no trust anymore. She is now single noooo:
Best answer ~ she now needs to access his clothes and cut the legs off all his suits.
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Oh dear. Not a nice thing to happen just before Christmas. However, I suspect BM is right. Will she be drunk dialing this evening? noooo:
Hopefully not ..we're taking her out to get sozzled and sing 'I will survive ' whilst dancing on top of a table. It is the ritual whistle:
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Cept his mum lives in Nottingham and us in London !!!
In the meantime she has confronted him with the information she has discovered - he has denied all knowledge and then he stormed out saying there is no trust anymore. She is now single noooo:
Oh dear. Not a nice thing to happen just before Christmas. However, I suspect BM is right. Will she be drunk dialing this evening? noooo:
Most definitely IMHO... whistle:
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Oh dear. Not a nice thing to happen just before Christmas. However, I suspect BM is right. Will she be drunk dialing this evening? noooo:
Hopefully not ..we're taking her out to get sozzled and sing 'I will survive ' whilst dancing on top of a table. It is the ritual whistle:
Ahhhh the time old honoured tradition. ;) Take her mob away from her!
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Good point Wenchy - Mobile will be confiscated at the beginning of the night.
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Oh dear. Not a nice thing to happen just before Christmas. However, I suspect BM is right. Will she be drunk dialing this evening? noooo:
Hopefully not ..we're taking her out to get sozzled and sing 'I will survive ' whilst dancing on top of a table. It is the ritual whistle:
She'll shag the DJ, do the walk of shame in the morning and have a hair of the dog later before calling the ex and telling him he can still use the car... whistle:
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Nooooo, she will get drunk, throw-up and then spend the rest of the evening sitting on the pavement with her feet in the gutter eating chips and crying about how she loved him/hates him/loves him/hates him. That is how all I will survive nights end! It is tradition!
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Nooooo, she will get drunk, throw-up and then spend the rest of the evening sitting on the pavement with her feet in the gutter eating chips and crying about how she loved him/hates him/loves him/hates him. That is how all I will survive nights end! It is tradition!
Walk of shame = evens
Vomit in gutter = 20:1
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Nooooo, she will get drunk, throw-up and then spend the rest of the evening sitting on the pavement with her feet in the gutter eating chips and crying about how she loved him/hates him/loves him/hates him. That is how all I will survive nights end! It is tradition!
She doesn't eat much - she is a stick insect type evil:
As for the love him / hate him dialogue that is bound to happen - followed by the other part of the tradition - when the gaggle of girls all proclaim how he was never good enough for her and she's best off out of it etc etc etc
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Nooooo, she will get drunk, throw-up and then spend the rest of the evening sitting on the pavement with her feet in the gutter eating chips and crying about how she loved him/hates him/loves him/hates him. That is how all I will survive nights end! It is tradition!
She doesn't eat much - she is a stick insect type evil:
As for the love him / hate him dialogue that is bound to happen - followed by the other part of the tradition - when the gaggle of girls all proclaim how he was never good enough for her and she's best off out of it etc etc etc
Half of them will have shagged him anyway.
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Nooooo, she will get drunk, throw-up and then spend the rest of the evening sitting on the pavement with her feet in the gutter eating chips and crying about how she loved him/hates him/loves him/hates him. That is how all I will survive nights end! It is tradition!
She doesn't eat much - she is a stick insect type evil:
As for the love him / hate him dialogue that is bound to happen - followed by the other part of the tradition - when the gaggle of girls all proclaim how he was never good enough for her and she's best off out of it etc etc etc
Followed by the all men are bastards rant.
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Nooooo, she will get drunk, throw-up and then spend the rest of the evening sitting on the pavement with her feet in the gutter eating chips and crying about how she loved him/hates him/loves him/hates him. That is how all I will survive nights end! It is tradition!
She doesn't eat much - she is a stick insect type evil:
As for the love him / hate him dialogue that is bound to happen - followed by the other part of the tradition - when the gaggle of girls all proclaim how he was never good enough for her and she's best off out of it etc etc etc
Half of them will have shagged him anyway.
happy001
How do you do that mind reading thing...? rubschin:
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Nooooo, she will get drunk, throw-up and then spend the rest of the evening sitting on the pavement with her feet in the gutter eating chips and crying about how she loved him/hates him/loves him/hates him. That is how all I will survive nights end! It is tradition!
She doesn't eat much - she is a stick insect type evil:
As for the love him / hate him dialogue that is bound to happen - followed by the other part of the tradition - when the gaggle of girls all proclaim how he was never good enough for her and she's best off out of it etc etc etc
Followed by the all men are bastards rant.
The Epilogue will be on Monday when she discovers she is up the duff. noooo:
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Nooooo, she will get drunk, throw-up and then spend the rest of the evening sitting on the pavement with her feet in the gutter eating chips and crying about how she loved him/hates him/loves him/hates him. That is how all I will survive nights end! It is tradition!
She doesn't eat much - she is a stick insect type evil:
As for the love him / hate him dialogue that is bound to happen - followed by the other part of the tradition - when the gaggle of girls all proclaim how he was never good enough for her and she's best off out of it etc etc etc
Followed by the all men are bastards rant.
The Epilogue will be on Monday when she discovers she is up the duff. noooo:
happy001
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Nooooo, she will get drunk, throw-up and then spend the rest of the evening sitting on the pavement with her feet in the gutter eating chips and crying about how she loved him/hates him/loves him/hates him. That is how all I will survive nights end! It is tradition!
She doesn't eat much - she is a stick insect type evil:
As for the love him / hate him dialogue that is bound to happen - followed by the other part of the tradition - when the gaggle of girls all proclaim how he was never good enough for her and she's best off out of it etc etc etc
Followed by the all men are bastards rant.
The Epilogue will be on Monday when she discovers she is up the duff. noooo:
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One of my friends has just phoned me in pieces....yep you guess it - bloke related noooo:
She has been with him for 2 years. They don't live together and only see each other about once a week as he is very busy at work ::). He works for a well known company as their sports editor sleep017...
I've just looked at this thread and the above is, I think, the pertinent part.
She wanted an up-and-coming media tycoon and is now realising that he was simply using her. It took her two years and all her false hopes and dreams have come crashing round her. More fool her.
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TMR Lives happ096 Where you bin man?
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Man flu and DIY surrender:
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Sorry to hear about both ~ good to see you.
There's an awful lorra cr*p to wade through here. ;)
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DIY surrender:
Mrs TMR (to be) been under the weather as well? whistle:
Nice to see you back
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DIY surrender:
Mrs TMR (to be) been under the weather as well? whistle:
Nice to see you back
lol:
She too is suffering, but is of the mind that strenuous exercise of the horizontal variety is better than chicken broth.
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DIY surrender:
Mrs TMR (to be) been under the weather as well? whistle:
Nice to see you back
lol:
She too is suffering, but is of the mind that strenuous exercise of the horizontal variety is better than chicken broth.
You realise she will change her opinion the second the words (to be) vanish from her title?
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DIY surrender:
Mrs TMR (to be) been under the weather as well? whistle:
Nice to see you back
lol:
She too is suffering, but is of the mind that strenuous exercise of the horizontal variety is better than chicken broth.
You realise she will change her opinion the second the words (to be) vanish from her title?
drumroll: drumroll:
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Is this about shagging? surrender:
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Horizontal Jogging Nick ~ I know it's been a long time but surely you remember?
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So, was it...
Walk of shame = evens
Vomit in gutter = 20:1
whistle:
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So, was it...
Walk of shame = evens
Vomit in gutter = 20:1
whistle:
Twins = 50:1
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So, was it...
Walk of shame = evens
Vomit in gutter = 20:1
whistle:
Twins = 50:1
Arrested 7 to 4 on...
happy088
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So, was it...
Walk of shame = evens
Vomit in gutter = 20:1
whistle:
ouch my poor head noooo:
No vomitting - or gutter gazing
As for the walk of shame there was no DJ......but not everyone behaved appropriately it has to be said noooo:
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So, was it...
Walk of shame = evens
Vomit in gutter = 20:1
whistle:
ouch my poor head noooo:
No vomitting - or gutter gazing
As for the walk of shame there was no DJ......but not everyone behaved appropriately it has to be said noooo:
Surely not the "I'm going to be a lesbian ~ someone point me at the nearest gay bar" routine
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So, was it...
Walk of shame = evens
Vomit in gutter = 20:1
whistle:
ouch my poor head noooo:
No vomitting - or gutter gazing
As for the walk of shame there was no DJ......but not everyone behaved appropriately it has to be said noooo:
And...? eveilgrin:
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Some tonsil hockey was being played
and a minor altercation with some eejits
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Some tonsil hockey was being played
and a minor altercation with some eejits
Tonsil tennis eh...? eveilgrin:
By who whom who did it? whistle:
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Did you tickle anyones tonsils? eyes:
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Did you tickle anyones tonsils? eyes:
Me??? eeek:
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I
was am a good girl. Someone has to be responsible ::)
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Responsible for what?
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Did you tickle anyones tonsils? eyes:
Me??? eeek:
Not you, Miss D! You're married, tonsil tickling on nights out are no longer for you! Not of the gossipy variety anyhow!
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When did that happen? eeek:
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I knew it ~ the recently separated wanted to go to a Gay Bar and find a new friend.
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Responsible for what?
Getting everyone home in one piece - not attached to someone they shouldn't be - with their own coat and bag - and without any battle scars lol:
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More like the recently seperated wanted to go to a strip joint.
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Responsible for what?
Getting everyone home in one piece - not attached to someone they shouldn't be - with their own coat and bag - and without any battle scars lol:
That is normally my job these days. noooo:
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This thread title does not need an apostrophe evil:
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Did you tickle anyones tonsils? eyes:
Me??? eeek:
Not you, Miss D! You're married, tonsil tickling on nights out are no longer for you! Not of the gossipy variety anyhow!
In my experience it's the married ones that go for the tonsil tennis and other delights when let off the leash. The singletons tend to be somewhat more choosy.
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This thread title does not need an apostrophe evil:
WE KNOW!
But why take so long to say it? Five pages to notice or to screw up the courage to tell her?
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Did you tickle anyones tonsils? eyes:
Me??? eeek:
Not you, Miss D! You're married, tonsil tickling on nights out are no longer for you! Not of the gossipy variety anyhow!
In my experience it's the married ones that go for the tonsil tennis and other delights when let off the leash. The singletons tend to be somewhat more choosy.
I remember going to a mass BT gathering when I was naive 19 year old. The way that the marrieds behaved was an eye opener to me. Randy teenagers had nothing on that lot. noooo:
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Did you tickle anyones tonsils? eyes:
Me??? eeek:
Not you, Miss D! You're married, tonsil tickling on nights out are no longer for you! Not of the gossipy variety anyhow!
In my experience it's the married ones that go for the tonsil tennis and other delights when let off the leash. The singletons tend to be somewhat more choosy.
I remember going to a mass BT gathering when I was naive 19 year old. The way that the marrieds behaved was an eye opener to me. Randy teenagers had nothing on that lot. noooo:
My point exactly.
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More like the recently seperated wanted to go to a strip joint.
The recently separated had several expressions of interest made which she politley declined but by 2 a.m. and several G & T's later did end up smooching with some guy and taking his number .....she had to take his business card sick2: because I had wisely confiscated her mobile (good call Wenchy by the way ;D )
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This thread title does not need an apostrophe evil:
WE KNOW!
But why take so long to say it? Five pages to notice or to screw up the courage to tell her?
It has only just begun to annoy me
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This thread title does not need an apostrophe evil:
Oh no - stop the world I want to get off - I have made a grammatical error - can I ever be forgiven cussing:
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This thread title does not need an apostrophe evil:
Oh no - stop the world I want to get off - I have made a grammatical error - can I ever be forgiven cussing:
I have changed the thread title to shut him up. I am NOT going to change the title on every post. evil:
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cloud9:
Carry on burbling
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More like the recently seperated wanted to go to a strip joint.
The recently separated had several expressions of interest made which she politley declined but by 2 a.m. and several G & T's later did end up smooching with some guy and taking his number .....she had to take his business card sick2: because I had wisely confiscated her mobile (good call Wenchy by the way ;D )
What sort of a sad w@nker goes out for the evening carrying his business cards? eeek:
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I have changed the thread title to shut him up. I am NOT going to change the title on every post. evil:
Oh dear - you have given in to the tantrum - I fear you may have now opened the floodgate to Pedantic Hell, a place that survives on hot air alone noooo:
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I have changed the thread title to shut him up. I am NOT going to change the title on every post. evil:
Oh dear - you have given in to the tantrum - I fear you may have now opened the floodgate to Pedantic Hell, a place that survives on hot air alone noooo:
TBH I spotted it on the first page but didn't want to offend by changing it.
No pedantry gates are open because I have shut them behind me.
Just say Caps Lock to Mr Nick and he'll go away ~ it's like garlic to a vampire.
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Married? eeek:
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Married? eeek:
What kept you? Not up a ladder again surely?
Either it is a Wenchy freudian slip or she has let a well hidden cat out of the bag. rubschin:
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Married? eeek:
What kept you? Not up a ladder again surely?
Either it is a Wenchy freudian slip or she has let a well hidden cat out of the bag. rubschin:
Dog walking... although I have been up the ladder again today... with the PaintPod like...
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Can't the dog walk itself?
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Can't the dog walk itself?
Yes... but he tends to chase goats if we don't keep an eye on him... noooo: