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Come Inside... => Saloon Bar => Topic started by: GROWLER on December 11, 2008, 06:30:55 PM
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MINE! cussing:
ME! cussing:
20years after a major eruption and fallout, my eldest son in his early thirties caused me to erupt again today.
He's started wearing a bloody earing again. cussing:
I've told him catergorically to grow up and make damned sure he's not wearing it in my presence.
He just grinned at me like a friggin' teenager.
I threatened handbags and frocks for him last time, this time it's going to happen, useless little pikey. Angry9:
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Don't patronise me. I'm generally in a mega shitty mood.
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Got Mrs G a present yet?
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Got Mrs G a present yet?
No, but charity shop beckons tomorrow morning for handbag and frock.
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It'll be his useless bint of a girlfriend that'll have talked him into it, I tell you.
Useless gormless bitch. cussing:
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Having a bad day, are we?
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Having a bad day, are we?
In a word, YES!
Now Mrs Growler is on the rampage. can't find her jewlery that she 'hid' two weeks ago when the house was left unoccupied for the weekend.
She wonders if she left it in her handbag, whch she also can't find!
Hid it in a handbag!!? Give me bloody strength!! eeek:
FFS, and as you usually say....I'm surrounded by idiots. Banghead
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Is an earring really worth a huge family row? scared2:
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Going out to cool down
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Don't forget your cigs!
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Mrs Nick leaves her car at the station and then gets the train to work.
She got back to her car last night and realised she had left the key in her office. It was, of course, my fault.
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Is an earring really worth a huge family row? scared2:
No, she has lost her jewellery ::)
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Is an earring really worth a huge family row? scared2:
No, quite, but I have to let my feelings be known. Old school stuff you know...no you probably don't. ::)
It's not so much the ruddy gipo ring that's wound me up, only that's bad enough, it was his bloody teenage stlye grinning and couldn't give a stuff what I think attitude that really got me bladder bubbling.
There's been no row anyway, just me ranting at everyone, which keeps the family amused I suppose. ::)
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Mrs Nick leaves her car at the station and then gets the train to work.
She got back to her car last night and realised she had left the key in her office. It was, of course, my fault.
What is it about you and me ey? Married a pair of nuggets. ::)
Is it anyone wonder we're both barking mad ey, is it? noooo:
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Is an earring really worth a huge family row? scared2:
Probably not BUT a man has a right to expect some respect from his son. If the boy/man wishes to wear an earing that is his affair but why flaunt it to his father? Why not take the damn thing out when he visits if he knows it is going to upset the old man? That is what annoys ~ the obviously deliberate attempt to stick two fingers up to his father's known feelings on the matter. He might just as well tell his father to fvck off and have done with it. Fathers have always expressed their feelings, which I grant are not always reasonable prejudices, about the way their children dress/behave etc. Our ideals are from an older generation and, in a teenager, we expect some rebellion against them but at 31 this son clearly has no respect for his father's feelings and is certainly old enough to know better.
Personally I would make it clear that he is not welcome in my company unless he agrees to compromise and take the earing out ~ but don't listen to me, my eldest is 40 and I haven't seen him for many years ~ since in fact I told him what I thought of him and his attitudes. No earing was involved but the principle remains. If he cannot take your feelings into account than tell him so go away and grow up. In my case it probably helps that I do not live with his mother so don't have the worry about her feelings on the subject. I don't know if this is also the case with Growler ~ if not it does make matters a bit trickier but frankly if he won't listen then simply leave the house when he visits. It certainly is not worth getting yourself wound up about. If his earing and grinning upsets you then, as he arrives, leave and go into the garage, down the pub or for a walk. The message will soon get through ~ at least it did with my boy. I have no wish to see him and am frankly happier not to.
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I didn't know about the flaunting! I agree that is a totally different kettle of fish. I remember when I had my navel pierced just before going home for Christmas. Rather than getting off the plane wearing a full length jumper, I arrived in a crop top and open cardigan. Rubbing it in. redface: In hindsight not the best of plans to start off a peaceful Christmas with Father Wench. noooo:
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On a less contentious note, I unearthed a crumled scrap of paper the other day which revealed that today is 'Non Uniform Day' at school. Arrangements were made.
At 8.37 this morning The Boy announced that 'Miss Dibbin' had decreed children should go in today dressed as 'Victorian Street Urchins' evil:
In that case he could go as normal evil:
Why wait until 13 minutes before school time to reveal this idiocy?
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I didn't know about the flaunting! I agree that is a totally different kettle of fish. I remember when I had my navel pierced just before going home for Christmas. Rather than getting off the plane wearing a full length jumper, I arrived in a crop top and open cardigan. Rubbing it in. redface: In hindsight not the best of plans to start off a peaceful Christmas with Father Wench. noooo:
Yup. It's deliberately provocative behaviour. (How did they find your navel?)
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I was 18 and had been a starving student for four months. Couldn't afford food. noooo:
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So it would be more of a hunt these days?
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Well who looks exactly the same at 30 as they did as a teenager!?!? It wouldn't be that bad!
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Of course, of course
char048
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Is an earring really worth a huge family row? scared2:
Probably not BUT a man has a right to expect some respect from his son. If the boy/man wishes to wear an earing that is his affair but why flaunt it to his father? Why not take the damn thing out when he visits if he knows it is going to upset the old man? That is what annoys ~ the obviously deliberate attempt to stick two fingers up to his father's known feelings on the matter. He might just as well tell his father to fvck off and have done with it. Fathers have always expressed their feelings, which I grant are not always reasonable prejudices, about the way their children dress/behave etc. Our ideals are from an older generation and, in a teenager, we expect some rebellion against them but at 31 this son clearly has no respect for his father's feelings and is certainly old enough to know better.
Personally I would make it clear that he is not welcome in my company unless he agrees to compromise and take the earing out ~ but don't listen to me, my eldest is 40 and I haven't seen him for many years ~ since in fact I told him what I thought of him and his attitudes. No earing was involved but the principle remains. If he cannot take your feelings into account than tell him so go away and grow up. In my case it probably helps that I do not live with his mother so don't have the worry about her feelings on the subject. I don't know if this is also the case with Growler ~ if not it does make matters a bit trickier but frankly if he won't listen then simply leave the house when he visits. It certainly is not worth getting yourself wound up about. If his earing and grinning upsets you then, as he arrives, leave and go into the garage, down the pub or for a walk. The message will soon get through ~ at least it did with my boy. I have no wish to see him and am frankly happier not to.
Spot on Snoops'. happy088
Worded with p'raps a bit more reason understanding and calmness than me though, granted. redface:
So glad you're in here. You understand. cloud9:
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Meanwhile, the never ending search for the 'hidden gems' of Mrs Growlers jewellery collection continue unabated amidst much mutterings of "oh how stupid am I"?
I'm merely looking on, suggesting possible ridiculous hiding places with much sarcasm and agreement, which in essence, probably isn't helping her increasingly darkening mood. lol:
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Meanwhile, the never ending search for the 'hidden gems' of Mrs Growlers jewellery collection continue unabated amidst much mutterings of "oh how stupid am I"?
I'm merely looking on, suggesting possible ridiculous hiding places with much sarcasm and agreement, which in essence, probably isn't helping her increasingly darkening mood. lol:
Satisfying, isn't it. whistle:
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On a less contentious note, I unearthed a crumled scrap of paper the other day which revealed that today is 'Non Uniform Day' at school. Arrangements were made.
At 8.37 this morning The Boy announced that 'Miss Dibbin' had decreed children should go in today dressed as 'Victorian Street Urchins' evil:
In that case he could go as normal evil:
Why wait until 13 minutes before school time to reveal this idiocy?
The answer is to ask him nightly for all letters etc. Alternatively ask the school sec to post all such letters to you, provide her with stamped envelopes for the purpose. It worked for me. One thing I can tell you is that no child will ever bring home all notes, letters etc issued by the school and put them in your anticipatory hand on the day they were issued. You have to get smarter and be one step, at least, in front of him. You know that these letters are issued all the time and he has a track record (as do my three) of failing to hand them over until the last minute. I went to the school about it and asked what sort of trained and experienced teacher could honestly say that they believed a child would remember such things. I got a lot of bulls hit about giving the child responsibility and showing trust in them. My laughter caused some offence but I got my own way and letters come directly to me. Children have many much more important things on their minds than being used as unpaid postmen.
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Meanwhile, the never ending search for the 'hidden gems' of Mrs Growlers jewellery collection continue unabated amidst much mutterings of "oh how stupid am I"?
I'm merely looking on, suggesting possible ridiculous hiding places with much sarcasm and agreement, which in essence, probably isn't helping her increasingly darkening mood. lol:
Satisfying, isn't it. whistle:
Most DS, most! lol:
Making me feel all warm and cosy inside. cloud9:
Earings problems are fast fading. Unfortunately I have got to visit Growler jnr/snr's household later on today to collect a car seat.
I SHALL remain calm.....ish, probably/hopefully/maybe. rubschin:
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Meanwhile, the never ending search for the 'hidden gems' of Mrs Growlers jewellery collection continue unabated amidst much mutterings of "oh how stupid am I"?
I'm merely looking on, suggesting possible ridiculous hiding places with much sarcasm and agreement, which in essence, probably isn't helping her increasingly darkening mood. lol:
I assume you have asked her if the boy's earing matches any of the missing items ~ I am not suggesting he would have nicked them but it might be worth making a point ~ what harm can it do to rub it in? ..... just as you leave the house would be best I feel. whistle:
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Meanwhile, the never ending search for the 'hidden gems' of Mrs Growlers jewellery collection continue unabated amidst much mutterings of "oh how stupid am I"?
I'm merely looking on, suggesting possible ridiculous hiding places with much sarcasm and agreement, which in essence, probably isn't helping her increasingly darkening mood. lol:
At least she admits guilt!
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Meanwhile, the never ending search for the 'hidden gems' of Mrs Growlers jewellery collection continue unabated amidst much mutterings of "oh how stupid am I"?
I'm merely looking on, suggesting possible ridiculous hiding places with much sarcasm and agreement, which in essence, probably isn't helping her increasingly darkening mood. lol:
Satisfying, isn't it. whistle:
Most DS, most! lol:
Making me feel all warm and cosy inside. cloud9:
Earings problems are fast fading. Unfortunately I have got to visit Growler jnr/snr's household later on today to collect a car seat.
I SHALL remain calm.....ish, probably/hopefully/maybe. rubschin:
Turn up in drag. See how he likes it!
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Meanwhile, the never ending search for the 'hidden gems' of Mrs Growlers jewellery collection continue unabated amidst much mutterings of "oh how stupid am I"?
I'm merely looking on, suggesting possible ridiculous hiding places with much sarcasm and agreement, which in essence, probably isn't helping her increasingly darkening mood. lol:
I assume you have asked her if the boy's earing matches any of the missing items ~ I am not suggesting he would have nicked them but it might be worth making a point ~ what harm can it do to rub it in? ..... just as you leave the house would be best I feel. whistle:
She's just announced, to my staggering amazement, that she's still searching...apparently....for some other tat jewellery that she 'hid for safety' somewhere in the bowels of Growler Towers, 13 YEARS AGO!! eeek:
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My MiL hid some jewellery for safety. It went missing and she reported the Home Help who she suspected of theft. The police got involved. All very difficult. We found them in the water tank!!
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My MiL hid some jewellery for safety. It went missing and she reported the Home Help who she suspected of theft. The police got involved. All very difficult. We found them in the water tank!!
Had they drowned?
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Just been brought to my attention that amongst other 'hidden' items of great value (apparently) are her engagement and wedding rings! eeek:
I'm now in trouble for not noticing that she hasn't been wearing them for the past 13 years.
I'm retorting quickly asking why TF she took them off in the first place? cussing:
I feel another row brewing.
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What you shaking your head about ey? rubschin:
Oh I see. Wimmins ganging up time is it? ALL my fault now. ::)
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What you shaking your head about ey? rubschin:
Oh I see. Wimmins ganging up time is it? ALL my fault now. ::)
Not at all, shaking head at Mrs Growler for continuing to hide things when she admits she lost the first lot!
Mother Wench has always hidden hers in one of two places, all of us know them. Father Wench used to hide his cash up the chimmney, until the year he forgot and lit a fire. Banghead
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What you shaking your head about ey? rubschin:
Oh I see. Wimmins ganging up time is it? ALL my fault now. ::)
Not at all, shaking head at Mrs Growler for continuing to hide things when she admits she lost the first lot!
Mother Wench has always hidden hers in one of two places, all of us know them. Father Wench used to hide his cash up the chimmney, until the year he forgot and lit a fire. Banghead
OK. Sorry.
I'm such a cynical bastard, I think everyone's against me.....they usually are though mind. ::)
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Not me! I love you all and am blind to all your faults! cloud9:
Apart from Nick's that is, his are blinding! point:
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What you shaking your head about ey? rubschin:
Oh I see. Wimmins ganging up time is it? ALL my fault now. ::)
Not at all, shaking head at Mrs Growler for continuing to hide things when she admits she lost the first lot!
Mother Wench has always hidden hers in one of two places, all of us know them. Father Wench used to hide his cash up the chimmney, until the year he forgot and lit a fire. Banghead
Precisely. EXACTLY what I've just said to Mrs Growler.
Why haven't you told us ffs, meaning me and Growler jnr's. Shrugs:
Apparently, this seems to run in her family.
MIL 'hid' a load of cash 15 years ago, how much I do not know, but a fairly substantial amount so it seems, and to this day she still hasn't found it. noooo: Staggering stuff.
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Not me! I love you all and am blind to all your faults! cloud9:
Apart from Nick's that is, his are blinding! point:
Ey? rubschin:
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Mrs Nick once hid a large amount of cash in her underpants on a shopping trip. She forgot it was there (HOW?) went to the bog in Oxford Street and flushed the whole lot away!
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Is it safe to comment yet ????
I have been known ,in days gone by, to hide the odd item or two for whatever reason. I have then had the same experience of trying to find the bastard thing again and turning the house upside down in the process.
I have now developed a plan - I have 1 hiding place only - if it is not in there it is therfore lost and will never be found. Very effective I can tell you lol:
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Is it safe to comment yet ????
Ey? confused:
We don't bite you know. noooo:
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Small safes ~ more than sufficient for your purposes (I assume you are not Prince Phillip and your wife is not called Elizabeth) can be purchased from Screwfix or other suppliers for less than £50. They can be bolted to the wall or floor inside a cupboard and jewellery, papers and cash can be safely left in them.
My inlaws used to go through this "We've hidden your mother's jewells (mostly tat) in the loft, under the insulation, the insurance policies are under the lounge carpet" nonsense everytime they went anywhere. FFS they have been known to hide stuff when they went to the shops and thence onto lunch. These same people refused to switch on their answer phone in case burglars rang their ex-directory number and, hearing the answer machine, deduce that they must be out and therefore would come and break in ::)
I bought them a small safe (from Makro ~ cost £45, guaranteed fireproof) and my BiL, equally exasperated, installed it for them in their bedroom. You have never seen two such happy people in all your life.
They then used to ring either me or BiL to ask us for the numbers to open the fvcking thing because they could never remember them ~ despite the fact that they were the FiL's date of birth Banghead
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Ey? confused:
We don't bite you know. noooo:
I know that - you / we are all lovely people rubschin: lol:. Sometimes though the stresses and strains and everyday life and the people that are in our life cause us to vent as you have been so eloquently doing. I just didn't want to get in the way of a good rant lol:
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Ey? confused:
We don't bite you know. noooo:
I know that - you / we are all lovely people rubschin: lol:. Sometimes though the stresses and strains and everyday life and the people that are in our life cause us to vent as you have been so eloquently doing. I just didn't want to get in the way of a good rant lol:
Now THAT'S a first!
I've been called many things in my life, but never ever never nowhat nohow ELOQUENT! lol:
They don't call me the grizzly grumpy growling old narky buffalo for nowt you know. noooo:
Big softie really, and ranting keeps me healthy and happy. Sounds daft I know, but I'd swear it werks.
the down side is I have very very few mates, but does this look like a face that's bovvered ey, does it? noooo:
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Wanna sniff my cake?
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Wanna sniff my cake?
Oh ffs.
Haven't you gone yet...with your rancid stinking cake preferably? ::)
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It's a very nice cake
With marzipan.................
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You haven't put the marzipan on already have you?!?!? eeek:
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No, only when Growler comes a sniffing angel1
It needs more 'food'
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No, only when Growler comes a sniffing angel1
It needs more 'food'
You really mean 'alchohol'? ::)
Piss up on a cake. rubschin: Actually sounds quite good that does. angel1
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Have you got the Apricot Jam to put under the Marzipan? whistle:
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Yes ::)
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Some people prefer Dundee Marmalade with Whisky in place of Apricot Jam. whistle:
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Is there no alternative to marzipan (vile vile vile vile vile stuff) ?
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There are alternatives~ like leaving it off altogether but some people like it and it is traditional. Personally I like the marzipan but I am not fond of the fruit cake that goes with it.
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There are alternatives~ like leaving it off altogether but some people like it and it is traditional. Personally I like the marzipan but I am not fond of the fruit cake that goes with it.
Hate the Marzipan. Hate the glace cherries. Hate the peel . Hate alcohol in a cake. But apart from that - it's alright I suppose
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HATE GLACE CHERRIES?!?!?! eeek:
I don't think we can be friends anymore. noooo:
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Marzipan... noooo:
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cry: cry: cry:
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Meanwhile ::), back at the great Growler treasure hunt, nowt has been found apart from some old 1960's Civil Service entrance exam papers of mine. eeek:
A fine read is forecast.
Mrs G is currently ripping the back room apart like some demented Armadillo. lol:
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Crunchy on the outside soft on the inside?
http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=yo0qjuA42HA
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Crunchy on the outside soft on the inside?
http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=yo0qjuA42HA
Luvlee stuff. lol:
I likes 'arry, and armadillos. cloud9:
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Meanwhile ::), back at the great Growler treasure hunt, nowt has been found apart from some old 1960's Civil Service entrance exam papers of mine. eeek:
A fine read is forecast.
Mrs G is currently ripping the back room apart like some demented Armadillo. lol:
She is related noooo:
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Crunchy on the outside soft on the inside?
http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=yo0qjuA42HA
Luvlee stuff. lol:
I likes 'arry, and armadillos. cloud9:
So my cake. No sniffing? noooo:
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Meanwhile ::), back at the great Growler treasure hunt, nowt has been found apart from some old 1960's Civil Service entrance exam papers of mine. eeek:
A fine read is forecast.
Mrs G is currently ripping the back room apart like some demented Armadillo. lol:
She is related noooo:
They ALL are. Wimmin. ::)
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Correect. They stick together, with body fat and stuff angel1
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cussing:
Better to say it how it is rather than talk shite ey? lol:
No mice at Growler Towers I can assure you. Just bears and demented armadillos. happy088
Truth often does hit a nerve mind. ::)