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Title: How very dare you!
Post by: Snoopy on September 08, 2009, 05:01:24 PM
Bloody ASDA delivery oik has just been. He rang the doorbell and in his broad scouse accent he addresses me by my first name and continued to so do throughout the delivery. I have informed him that this is unacceptable. Just because the account details give my full name that does not imply permission for him to call me anything other than Mr XXXXX or Sir. I am the bloody customer, he is the employee.
I have now rung ASDA customer services and formally complained. I think we will be switching to Tesco next week!
Title: Re: How very dare you!
Post by: Barman on September 08, 2009, 05:14:23 PM
Nick can give you some tips on ordering from Tesco...  whistle:
Title: Re: How very dare you!
Post by: Darwins Selection on September 08, 2009, 05:22:13 PM
Nick can give you some tips on ordering from Tesco...  whistle:
144 tips in fact
Title: Re: How very dare you!
Post by: Pastis on September 08, 2009, 05:23:10 PM
I am perplexed by the variety of appellations that come my way  confused:  noooo:

Some salesmen / women on the phone launch in on first name terms; they get short shrift  evil:

Yes, Guv'nor I quite like. Yes, Sir is equally acceptable  cloud9:

Good Morning, Young Man from Edna in the park just makes me chuckle  lol:
Title: Re: How very dare you!
Post by: Snoopy on September 08, 2009, 05:32:50 PM
I had a nurse booking me into a bed in Manchester Royal Infirmary on one occasion.
She started filling out the forms and used the shortened version of my Christian name.
I said "Don't call me that".
She said "Why not?"
I said "Because I don't like it"
She then said "Oh, so what do they call you at home then?"
I replied "Daddy mostly but you can call me Mr Snoopy or Sir"  eveilgrin:
Title: Re: How very dare you!
Post by: Darwins Selection on September 08, 2009, 05:34:25 PM
I had a nurse booking me into a bed in Manchester Royal Infirmary on one occasion.
She started filling out the forms and used the shortened version of my Christian name.
I said "Don't call me that".
She said "Why not?"
I said "Because I don't like it"
She then said "Oh, so what do they call you at home then?"
I replied "Daddy mostly but you can call me Mr Snoopy or Sir"  eveilgrin:

As she scribbled 'Tabasco Enema' on your notes.
Title: Re: How very dare you!
Post by: Miss Demeanour on September 08, 2009, 05:46:36 PM
First names are informal and are to be used by friends, acquaintances and family.

Unless invited to use the first name then it should always be Mr or ...Ms   whistle:
Title: Re: How very dare you!
Post by: Snoopy on September 08, 2009, 05:52:43 PM
My feeling exactly Miss D.

Unwanted familiarity is a cheek and damned rude especially in a situation where I am the customer and "they" are supposed to be providing a service for which I have paid.

This over familiar attitude by nursing staff is very offensive to many older patients. If the Consultant can take the trouble to call me Mr then I see no reason why some overweight, workshy nurse should not afford me the same courtesy. That said I am friendly with a number of the nursing staff on the cardiac wards at the local hospital, indeed many of them live in this village, and we do use first names but when the senior doctors are about then they revert to Mr and I call them Nurse or Staff Nurse as appropriate
Title: Re: How very dare you!
Post by: Barman on September 08, 2009, 06:13:00 PM
I had a nurse booking me into a bed in Manchester Royal Infirmary on one occasion.
She started filling out the forms and used the shortened version of my Christian name.
I said "Don't call me that".
She said "Why not?"
I said "Because I don't like it"
She then said "Oh, so what do they call you at home then?"
I replied "Daddy mostly but you can call me Mr Snoopy or Sir"  eveilgrin:

As she scribbled 'Tabasco Enema' on your notes.

 happy001
Title: Re: How very dare you!
Post by: Pirate on September 08, 2009, 08:08:16 PM
First names are informal and are to be used by friends, acquaintances and family.

Unless invited to use the first name then it should always be Mr or ...Ms   whistle:

Can I call you Miss, Miss?
Title: Re: How very dare you!
Post by: Mrs TG on September 08, 2009, 08:53:51 PM
it would not bother me in least being called by my first name...although its usually mrs first...maybe he was just a friendly guy... rubschin:
Title: Re: How very dare you!
Post by: Miss Demeanour on September 09, 2009, 07:00:16 AM
First names are informal and are to be used by friends, acquaintances and family.

Unless invited to use the first name then it should always be Mr or ...Ms   whistle:

Can I call you Miss, Miss?

Of course you can call me Miss  cloud9:...just not Mrs ( hated that even when I was married and M'am is a definite no no )
Title: Re: How very dare you!
Post by: tel on September 09, 2009, 07:35:47 AM
Madam?
Title: Re: How very dare you!
Post by: Miss Demeanour on September 09, 2009, 07:37:08 AM
Now that is entirely a different matter  ;)
Title: Re: How very dare you!
Post by: tel on September 09, 2009, 07:39:53 AM
Did you mean "now"?
Title: Re: How very dare you!
Post by: Darwins Selection on September 09, 2009, 07:48:37 AM
It may be more of a rural practice and have feudal origins, but I always call manual workers by their first name and they always call me 'Mr Selection' or 'Guv'nor'.

I suppose it reinforces class lines which is a bit non-PC, but it is how it has always been and all seem comfortable with it.