The Virtual Pub
Come Inside... => Saloon Bar => Topic started by: Miss Demeanour on January 14, 2010, 02:33:50 PM
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Sometimes knowing stuff just makes life awkward noooo:
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Do tell, after all ?A burden shared is a burden halved?
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Are you a trustworthy bunch ? rubschin:
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Oh goody, a secret! Popcorn:
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It might be about you BM. rubschin:
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It might be about you BM. rubschin:
rubschin:
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scared2:
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A little knowledge is a dangerous thing.
Ignorance is bliss.
One either needs to know everything or nothing ~ in between is nothing but worry.
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It is about the Reverend coming around to my house on Saturday isn't it...? scared2:
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"Reports that say that something hasn't happened are always interesting to me, because as we know, there are known knowns; there are things we know we know. We also know there are known unknowns; that is to say we know there are some things we do not know. But there are also unknown unknowns -- the ones we don't know we don't know."
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Sometimes knowing stuff just makes life awkward noooo:
Yeah, sometimes I wish people wouldn't tell you things.
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?A burden shaved is a burden halved?
Is this in the right thread?
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How would I know? shrugs:
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I am confuddled now eeek:
Not about any of you lot - I know so little of your adventures noooo:
My boss is having an affair with our director. They are both married. My boss has told me everything about it and I think she now regrets this - not that I can't be trusted - but that it is prolly inappropriate and I think she knows this...however she know rings me in the evenings to discuss the issues around this quite often. I like my boss and get on well with her however talking about their situation for hours on end is becoming a little tiresome.
Meanwhile the Director is coming round to see 'us' ::) more and more and it is becoming a little irratating to say the least. I am the only one that actually knows whats going on although he doesn't know that I know kind of thing.
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Be nice to her.
She will have few enough friends when it all comes out, which it will.
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I am always nice angel1
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I am always nice angel1
Then she has nothing to fear
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Meanwhile the Director is coming round to see 'us' ::) more and more and it is becoming a little irratating to say the least. I am the only one that actually knows whats going on although he doesn't know that I know kind of thing.
He probably does know you know, that is why he keeps coming round. Also I would guess that more people in the office know some or all of it anyway. 'tis the way of offices.
It will end in tears.
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I used to werk with a woman who was having an affair with our boss. They were both hideously ugly btw, but he was blind so didn't care. It became a kind of open secret which no one talked about.
It came unravelled when he got his wife, who did catering, to cater for some corporate event and got the GF to liaise with her!! He must have had some death wish!! She had another BF who she lived with. There was a massive punch up over the canapes noooo:
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Meanwhile the Director is coming round to see 'us' ::) more and more and it is becoming a little irratating to say the least. I am the only one that actually knows whats going on although he doesn't know that I know kind of thing.
He probably does know you know, that is why he keeps coming round. Also I would guess that more people in the office know some or all of it anyway. 'tis the way of offices.
It will end in tears.
I suspect you are right Mort.
Women think Men don't pick up on these things, but if he knows you are her good pal and he has any sense, he will know she must have told you.
We old silverbacks know about how you gerls werk y'know.
Also, you discuss things between yourselves which are orders of magnitude more intimate and detailed than chaps would ever say to each other under any circumstances, ever. eeek:
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Wot he said. These things are never secret.Behaviour, body language the lot. Most folks can spot it. My courtiship with Mrs Nick was meant to be clandestine (we worked together in a very gossipy place). When we finally got married (after 6 years) everyone we worked with sort of breathed out redface:
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Like Nick's situation, I met MrsTMRBB at work. Our relationship was concealed for a good 2 years before anyone found out - not that either of us were in a relationship to have to cover up - but we both agreed that due to our various positions within the company (no, not on the desk or over the photocopier,DS...) It would be "better" that way. No-one knew and that was PRECISELY because I didn't suddenly start making extra visits to her department and vice-versa. I still went to lunch with my brother and she still went to lunch with her friends.
Miss D, if you think it's becoming obvious, then it is - and not just to you.
Keep well out of it and cut these phone-calls out. You may think you are helping - with good intention. When it all comes out, you will be seen as a co-conspirator.
And that ain't gonna be good.
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Wot he said
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Thanks Nick.
Miss D, get yourself out of this situation sooner, rather than later. Look after No.1.
As much as it goes against the female grain of being a "confidante". That is just a word and a position that puts you in the firing-line, ultimately.
Those that seek to share their little secrets never have your well-being at heart - you are merely an overflow pipe that they wish to flush their own shit through. They feel it cleanses them - you are left with the sewerage to deal with.
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Make it your business to inform their respective parters, the CEO and the Evening Standard at the earliest opportunity ~ and take her job eveilgrin:
There is no gain without pain and it is better that you gain from their pain than that somebody else does.
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Thanks Nick.
Miss D, get yourself out of this situation sooner, rather than later. Look after No.1.
As much as it goes against the female grain of being a "confidante". That is just a word and a position that puts you in the firing-line, ultimately.
I am trying too slowly but gently .
This has been going on for over a year but things are stepping up a pace at the moment ....the risks are indeed high
Matey boy director keeps coming down ( he is based on a different floor ) and sitting down to chat all friendly like. But he is over compensating big time.
This morning he came down and was talking work stuff and how much he was doing at the moment sleep017 . Then said how boring his wife said he had become with all his incessant talk of work all the time. He then went on to say that the poor women has once married an attractive, exciting , spontaneous, romantic bloke noooo:. I made the mistake of asking if she had been married before then lol:
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Both these people are liars and could this put your position in jeopardy in any way.
I'd take one of two approaches, use it to your advantage or spill the beans!
Wankers!
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Ok Popcorn Club have you got your supplies at the ready ????
My boss went out with the Director last night ....for a meal and a few drinks. Apparently they had a lovely meal and then went to a pub at about 10 ish.....
When taking his jacket off matey boy must have pressed a speed dial number to his wife .....about 20 minutes later he gets a bleep to say he has a text message. Retrieves phone ....
Finds phone call is connected to his house still eeek:
Text from wife saying he truly is very busy tonight eeek:
Exit stage left .........
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shocked003 Popcorn: Popcorn: Popcorn: Popcorn: Popcorn: Popcorn: Popcorn:
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This will end in tears for sure.... noooo:
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She has just gone up to see him to find out what, if anything the wifey heard scared2:
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She has just gone up to see him to find out what, if anything the wifey heard scared2:
He is still alive? eeek:
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Apparently so...though not sure in what condition rubschin:
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My boss has had to go home for the afternoon eeek:
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Shagathon?
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Hardly ..she was in tears scared2:
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Popcorn:
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Looks like there's to be a job vacancy soon. You should get your application in quick Miss D.
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noooo: Oh dear expect further long phone calls Miss D. happy100
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Well, she has been kicked to the kerb I would imagine. noooo: What a mess.
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Update.....
It is all over as of today, he has asked to just be friends and preserve both their marriages eeek:
My boss is most upset and asked if we could go to lunch so she could chat. So off we toddle to the coffee shop at lunch time. She buys the drinks and then sits down and starts to talk about how she feels and stuff - getting a bit upset. Then in walks the man in question, waves to the two of us , he goes and gets a coffee and then proceeds to plonk himself down and talk for half an hour about the recent sailing trip he went on with his wife and other stuff. He hasn't a clue I know anything
We all had to leave together and then boss came back and went a found a room to ball her eyes out in eeek:
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It ain't over yet noooo:
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What is the next step then ? scared2:
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What is the next step then ? scared2:
"Bunny boiling" I'd guess.
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It ain't over yet noooo:
Nope it deffo isn't.
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The whole 'friends' thing is not really an option it's just a 'get out' clause. Just bollocks bollocks and more bollocks IMHO
Your boss, Miss D will soon turn into the 'woman scorned' don't let her take you down, it is going to get messy. noooo:
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Tell the director to watch out for fish hooks and ground glass in his coffee. If there was any real management in your workplace they would both be moved sideways at a rate of knots.
Probably take 6 months and ?20,000 worth of lawyera and HR consultants though.
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Make it your business to inform their respective parters, the CEO and the Evening Standard at the earliest opportunity ~ and take her job eveilgrin:
There is no gain without pain and it is better that you gain from their pain than that somebody else does.
I can only repeat my earlier comment.
It is a mess, not an uncommon one but a mess for all that, and anyone nearby will get splashed when the brown stuff hits the revolving object as it most surely will.
You need to disengage yourself as soon as possible and about the only way to do that now is to tell someone higher up the food chain than either of them and play the innocent angel1