The tyranny of the ex

[Miss Demeanour]

Right time to get stuff off my chest !!!!
New man is totally lovely and ‘we’ are really good together.

The fly in the ointment is his ex, they were not married though. She left him about 5 years to go off with his best mate. She now lives with said ex best mate.

They have a joint mortgage but she has not paid anything for the last 5 years. He has remained at the house with their 2 sons (20 & 15). She turns up at the house anytime she wants which is often quite a few days a week (under the guise of seeing the boys).

New man informed her sometime ago that he was in a new relationship. Since then all hell has broken loose. 

She has asked to get back together (whilst still going on holiday with her other blokey  of course ) . When he has refused she has gone totally ballistic. She has tried to turn their sons against him but both of the boys fully support him having this relationship.

Yesterday she has declared she is moving back in and will be making his life hell and obviously the lives of her children who do not want her to move back in .

The wumman is feckin unbelievable ....I am hoping that she is just having a massive tantrum cos I can’t possibly see her leaving her current bloke to go and stay where she is not wanted , potentially at the risk of losing current bloke  and the ex bloke not wanting anything to do with you  - but I wouldn’t put it past her.

[GROWLER]

Have you actually met this 'lady' yourself yet?

Nowt werse than 'baggage' accompanied by skellingtons rattlin' in't cupboard.

If this geezer is as good as you reckon, then he needs to get his finger out and tell the witch to sod off and leave alone, otherwise court injunction will have to beckon I reckon.

[Miss Demeanour]

I have met her before at a wedding a few years ago . So she knows who I am .

I have not come face to face with her 'recently' because quite honestly I'm not sure I could hold my tongue or my fists 

It looks like some form of legal action is going to have to be taken but that is not quick remedy ....meanwhile she causes carnage 

[Snoopy]

Oh dear!

My ex-wife pulled a similar trick by moving out to live with her new man. For 6 months she came nowhere near the house or the kids who were 15 and 18 but as soon as she got wind that I had started a relationship with Woodstock she stormed back into the house declaring "She can have you but she is not getting my house or my children" so I moved out on the day she moved back in.
Strangely, within 9 months she had ditched her new bloke and sent the kids to live with Woodstock and me. She and Woodstock actually get on very well now but she is still spiteful towards me. Oh and a couple of years after the divorce she married someone else. Not the bloke she'd run off with.
All very odd and nasty at the time.

It really is something that your fella has to resolve for himself. You can help by supporting him but keep in the background whilst he sorts it.
That was how we got through it all. Woodstock was supportive and always there but I had to sort the problem to be able to offer her what we both  wanted, which was to be together..... 26 years on we still are, which pleases me and apparently Woodstock too.

I do hope it works out for you in the way you would want but it will be a struggle as your man will feel a great deal of guilt no matter whose fault it is.

[GROWLER]

What he sez ^^. he may be a grumpy owld git sometimes, but he does talk sense.

All makes me fell sssso lucky now following my divorce in the late 70's.
Mrs G #1 NEVER gave me any grief apart from access to G jnr/snr for a few months, and she really didn't seem to give a flying herd of turds about me having different wimmins all the time.

She was a hussy and a bag at the time though mind.

[Pirate]

Right time to get stuff off my chest !!!!
New man is totally lovely and ‘we’ are really good together.

The fly in the ointment is his ex, they were not married though. She left him about 5 years to go off with his best mate. She now lives with said ex best mate.

They have a joint mortgage but she has not paid anything for the last 5 years. He has remained at the house with their 2 sons (20 & 15). She turns up at the house anytime she wants which is often quite a few days a week (under the guise of seeing the boys).

New man informed her sometime ago that he was in a new relationship. Since then all hell has broken loose. 

She has asked to get back together (whilst still going on holiday with her other blokey  of course ) . When he has refused she has gone totally ballistic. She has tried to turn their sons against him but both of the boys fully support him having this relationship.

Yesterday she has declared she is moving back in and will be making his life hell and obviously the lives of her children who do not want her to move back in .

The wumman is feckin unbelievable ....I am hoping that she is just having a massive tantrum cos I can’t possibly see her leaving her current bloke to go and stay where she is not wanted , potentially at the risk of losing current bloke  and the ex bloke not wanting anything to do with you  - but I wouldn’t put it past her.

Move in...before she does...

[Baldy]

Did he have any other relationships since she moved out? If not she prolly had him around her little finger and thought she could play him to her advantage. 

She might feel threatened in her cosy situation with you tresspassing on her comfy little number.

[apc2010]

I mis-read the title......thought the Brats dad was cross dressing....

[Baldy]

I mis-read the title......thought the Brats dad was cross dressing....

 

[Miss Demeanour]

Did he have any other relationships since she moved out? If not she prolly had him around her little finger and thought she could play him to her advantage. 

She might feel threatened in her cosy situation with you tresspassing on her comfy little number.

He had another brief relationship a few years ago but it wasn't serious. She convinced him that if he ended it they would get back together and be 'a family' again.

So he ended it thinking his relationship might be recoverable with her.

She then refused to discuss it further and  nothing has changed  since some 4 years later. 

[Baldy]

Keeping him hanging on me thinks. 

[GROWLER]

I mis-read the title......thought the Brats dad was cross dressing....

Oh Apey. You do make me chortle sometimes.

[GROWLER]

Did he have any other relationships since she moved out? If not she prolly had him around her little finger and thought she could play him to her advantage. 

She might feel threatened in her cosy situation with you tresspassing on her comfy little number.

He had another brief relationship a few years ago but it wasn't serious. She convinced him that if he ended it they would get back together and be 'a family' again.

So he ended it thinking his relationship might be recoverable with her.

She then refused to discuss it further and  nothing has changed  since some 4 years later.

D'ya (or him) want me to come down there an' 'ave a well ard and proper 'werd' with 'er like?

[Miss Demeanour]

Yes please .....you could use your very effective charm technique

[GROWLER]

Yes please .....you could use your very effective charm technique

Oh yes indeedeedodo.

I have spoken to you, so you know JUST how charming and well spoken I am ey?