Thanks Miss T
In answer to your question – yes he does make me really happy.
He really is the loveliest person – however he accepts he has allowed this situation to go on for far too long and as a consequence of this the situation now is fairly intolerable. He does indeed have to now stand up and be counted in terms of taking action, not allowing her to control his life . The boys are hardly kids and she has little influence or power over them. What she does believe is that she has the ability to make him feel like shit and wear him down to get what she wants. I find her absolute audacity totally gobsmackingly outrageous. Ask him to get back together, then turn abusive then go back home to your bloke and pretend everything is alright !!!
I have compared it to any change management process where you have to go through the stages of shock, anger, denial and depression etc until you finally get to acceptance. How long this will take heaven only knows. Is this something I can accept - only if I see consistency and positive action being taken .
The financial side of things can be sorted over time but the emotional damage and unacceptable behaviours cannot.
Keep you pecker up Miss D......If he is strong enough and it was meant to happen it will all work out in the end.
Ex Mrs B has not allowed me to see my two girls on the last four Christmas Days
They are twelve and five years old so I have missed all the magic of the occasion.
I never said a thing to the kids.......but now the eldest is asking questions. They will see through in the end and the truth will be outed.
Tell him to stay strong and it will be sorted.