The frustration of contrariness

[Nick]

Right, Mrs Nick would NEVER accept that I might be right about ANYTHING. ANYTHING AT ALL.

For the last 2 years she has had redundancy hanging over her head. I advised her to get legal advice via the union or anyone. Because I suggested this she refused. It was ever thus 

I realise in retrospect that if I had said "steer clear of lawyers" she would have been down to Sue, Grabbit and Runn like a shot, but no.

SHe now tells me that she has been made redundant as of July 31st. Bad terms and HR will not talk to her.Nor will her boss. SHe is 58 and a half years old.

I suggested she gets some legal advice. I got shouted at 

What is wrong with the wumman???   

[Pirate]

It's not her...it's you...

[apc2010]

Right, Mrs Nick would NEVER accept that I might be right about ANYTHING. ANYTHING AT ALL.

For the last 2 years she has had redundancy hanging over her head. I advised her to get legal advice via the union or anyone. Because I suggested this she refused. It was ever thus 

I realise in retrospect that if I had said "steer clear of lawyers" she would have been down to Sue, Grabbit and Runn like a shot, but no.

SHe now tells me that she has been made redundant as of July 31st. Bad terms and HR will not talk to her.Nor will her boss. SHe is 58 and a half years old.

I suggested she gets some legal advice. I got shouted at 

What is wrong with the wumman???   

Riding the alimony pony...........

[Pirate]

18 months to retirement...Nick has sold his flat in London and is millionaire...

[Darwins Selection]

Mrs Nick would NEVER accept that I might be right about ANYTHING. ANYTHING AT ALL.

She has a point. . .

[Nick]

[serious]  This is the Commons. She is sitting on bout £800000 of property + my son + rental income +redundancy and REFUSES to TAKE FUCKING FUCKING LEGAL ADVICE  [SERIOUS]

[Steve]

Would legal advice really have made any difference? 

Much sympathy to Mrs N, redundancy is a bastard experience.

[Pirate]

[serious]  This is the Commons. She is sitting on bout £800000 of property + my son + rental income +redundancy and REFUSES to TAKE FUCKING FUCKING LEGAL ADVICE  [SERIOUS]

Sorry Nick...didn't look to see what section this was in...but you cant seriously think that anyone in here could give you any sound advice on what you should do next...

[Nick]

Would legal advice really have made any difference? 

Much sympathy to Mrs N, redundancy is a bastard experience.
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I did well out of it, but I had free legal advice

[Uncle Mort]

Is there a third party (mutual friend or somesuch) that you could pass advice through?

[Barman]

Is there a third party (mutual friend or somesuch) that you could pass advice through?

The Boy! 

[Darwins Selection]

[serious]  This is the Commons. She is sitting on bout £800000 of property + my son + rental income +redundancy and REFUSES to TAKE FUCKING FUCKING LEGAL ADVICE  [SERIOUS]

Sorry I'm sure. Evidence led me to believe you were exempted from the usual Commons rules.

Please use [serious] [/serious] for clarity, even in here.

With reference to your query, anything you suggest will be treated with contempt and dismissed (much as it is in here).

You need a neutral third party, trusted by Mrs Nick, to make her see sense.

It seems unlikely, but does she have a girly best friend who would allow you close enough to explain the problem?

[Barman]

[serious]  This is the Commons. She is sitting on bout £800000 of property + my son + rental income +redundancy and REFUSES to TAKE FUCKING FUCKING LEGAL ADVICE  [SERIOUS]

Sorry I'm sure. Evidence led me to believe you were exempted from the usual Commons rules.

Please use [serious] [/serious] for clarity, even in here.

With reference to your query, anything you suggest will be treated with contempt and dismissed (much as it is in here).

You need a neutral third party, trusted by Mrs Nick, to make her see sense.

It seems unlikely, but does she have a girly best friend who would allow you close enough to explain the problem?

[Snoopy]

1) Don't tell her you've sold your flat.
2) Remember that advice is meant to be given but seldom taken.
3) Count yourself well out of it all ~ tell her you too have financial problems and cannot help.
4) Be pleased that you can now say "I told you so" ~ a small but immensely satisfying inner glow will result.
5) Withdraw from the whole thing & let her get on with it ..... A muttered "Yeah ~ Life can be a bitch" is not inappropriate.

[beerhead]

Wot Snoopy said, but think No4, don't say it !