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As the priest is addressing both you and your husband it means that you are already married. You ma. y (within the Catholic church) only have one couple in a marriage. Should you wish to have several couples within your marriage may I suggest that you leave the Catholic church with immediate effect and get your self (and your husband) to SwingersRUs. SwingersRUs can be found in most big cities and as well as a communal 'anything goes' area where general orgies are held you will find several 'special' side rooms. Given your penchant for ropes and virgins I think that you, your husband and any of your err, other couples will be better suited to one of these side rooms.
I know that you want a ceremony but even at SwingersRUs you ARE NOT allowed to sacrifice virgins. Should you do so you will be immediately be ejected and banned from the establishment.
If your mother continues to stress you out I suggest that you take her along to SwingersRUs knowing where you are, what you are doing and how many people you are doing 'it' with will set her mind at rest.