Alzheimer's

[Steve]

Big Sis is wearing herself out clearing out cupboards, wardrobes, filing cabinets and the garage!

The stepdaughters called me (they had been down for the day) and intimated that BS is "under pressure" to get the house ready for a quick sale.  I sense the hoofprint of the toxic niece.

Needless to say, the Queen of Twatt is not making any contribution to this effort and has cut the carers down to 2 hours a week.

I might have to kill her 

 
I should mention at this point that everyone at Alibis-R-Us is on furlough

[Nick]

Oh Joy! Pink Sis drove from here to Winchester today unannounced for a surprise visit to Big Sis!

Big Sis's reaction was, "Fuck off, you aren't coming in." 

SHe is presently on the way back 

[Steve]

    FFS

[Nick]

This whole thing is turning into a dark soap opera 

[Steve]

This whole thing is turning into a dark soap opera 

I have to say that my sympathy for your Big Sis plummeted when I read that post

[Nick]

1. She can't stand Pink Sis
2. She is Covid averse
3. Pink Sis showed up unannounced expecting a big welcome she was never going to get

[Miss Demeanour]

The positive is that at least Big Sis can still remember that 

[Nick]

 

[Grumpmeister]

Have you checked to see if she actually has Lasting Power of Attorney or Guardianship? They have to register with the Office of the Public Guardian and you can check to see if someone has one registered but from what I can see your sister wouldn't be able to appoint someone as they have to be both over 18 and have mental capacity to be able to do so. If she has anything then it sounds like she has gained Guardianship which can be cancelled.

If she is a registered Guardian, paying for her niece's medical bills in the US (if they are coming out of the estate), cutting down carers to 2 hours a week and pressuring her to sell up certainly sound like significant concerns that should be reported.

https://www.gov.uk/find-someones-attorney-deputy-or-guardian

https://www.gov.uk/report-concern-about-attorney-deputy-guardian

[Nick]

Lasting Power of Attorney for Welfare and Finances, handed to her daughter and son in law and signed off in the presence of her GP

[Nick]

It gathers pace. Big Sis calls. Late last year my late BiL (who favoured electric cars despite being a steam train fan) got rid of his Prius and bought a new Hyundai Ionic.

The Duchess has sent a man to "collect" it as it will help "create space" in the garage.

It seems one of the Duchess's kids needs a new car.....

[Grumpmeister]

Lasting Power of Attorney is worthless until it has been registered with the OPG and once it has there are safeguards and protections for the vulnerable. If it has been registered then use the  procedure to raise your concerns and let the stepdaughters know about it as well.

By law the OPG can investigate concerns over how an attorney has acted since they registered the LPA, such as misuse of the donor’s money or decisions that are not in the donor’s best interests.

Pushing your sister into selling her home, drastically cutting her carer coverage and giving away her possessions are clearly not in her best interests and the US medical costs certainly seem to be misuse of her money.

https://www.gov.uk/guidance/how-we-deal-with-safeguarding-concerns

[Nick]

The holder of the PoA is her son in law who is a judge and a QC. It was set up ages ago and was activated with a witness signature from her doctor.

She now tells me that she is being taken to view a "retirement home" and that the Duchess is sending Estate Agents round while she is out on Wednesday

Powerless here and furious 

Naked greed is an ugly thing. Not one of her kids or grandkids has gone near her since all this started.

[Grumpmeister]

The holder of the PoA is her son in law who is a judge and a QC. It was set up ages ago and was activated with a witness signature from her doctor.

She now tells me that she is being taken to view a "retirement home" and that the Duchess is sending Estate Agents round while she is out on Wednesday

Powerless here and furious 

Naked greed is an ugly thing. Not one of her kids or grandkids has gone near her since all this started.

You may be powerless but the OPG is not, so contact them, raise your concerns and let them start the investigation procedure. It doesn't matter who is the holder of the PoA or who witnessed it, if they find a case misuse of money and authority then they can act on it up to and including replacing him with someone else.

[Nick]

Thanks!