Goodluck to the Man and much love to Miss D

[Barman]

So yesterday we had an appt with Oncologist.  Woman sitting down in office with file notes in front of her etc.  So we sit down . No introductions – she launches in with the “ Can you tell me your appraisal of what has happened so far and what you think are your results “

So the man gives a quick summary of what we think we know.  Then she starts to carefully and slowly repeat this whilst looking at the paperwork  and pulling more concerned faces. She looks at me and ask me what is wrong and so I simply say that I am obviously waiting for her to deliver some bad news as she seems to be leading up to this .

She doesn’t respond. Start going through the surgery results and talking of cells that could become active in the lymph nodes etc.  Then starts going on about chemo and the implications and 50% chance of return without and 25% return if have chemo etc. 

There was nothing positive in her demeanour at all . Then the nurse says oh I will go and get the Oncologist now !!!  WTF  - so you would presume she is in training  - not that she clarified anything at this point. Along  comes  the Oncologist  and goes through stuff in a bit more detail  – but my god we both came away yesterday feeling so low with all sorts of fears and dreads bubbling away.

Today we had an appt with the surgeon who performed op. She gave a completely different perspective and was focusing on the positives and next steps and making it all manageable etc. 

I totally appreciate they have to go through the whole spectrum of scenarios to ensure you are fully informed but what you can’t teach is ‘bedside manner’   

Sounds terrible... 

[Uncle Mort]

 Thinking of you both

[Steve]

So yesterday we had an appt with Oncologist.  Woman sitting down in office with file notes in front of her etc.  So we sit down . No introductions – she launches in with the “ Can you tell me your appraisal of what has happened so far and what you think are your results “

So the man gives a quick summary of what we think we know.  Then she starts to carefully and slowly repeat this whilst looking at the paperwork  and pulling more concerned faces. She looks at me and ask me what is wrong and so I simply say that I am obviously waiting for her to deliver some bad news as she seems to be leading up to this .

She doesn’t respond. Start going through the surgery results and talking of cells that could become active in the lymph nodes etc.  Then starts going on about chemo and the implications and 50% chance of return without and 25% return if have chemo etc. 

There was nothing positive in her demeanour at all . Then the nurse says oh I will go and get the Oncologist now !!!  WTF  - so you would presume she is in training  - not that she clarified anything at this point. Along  comes  the Oncologist  and goes through stuff in a bit more detail  – but my god we both came away yesterday feeling so low with all sorts of fears and dreads bubbling away.

Today we had an appt with the surgeon who performed op. She gave a completely different perspective and was focusing on the positives and next steps and making it all manageable etc. 

I totally appreciate they have to go through the whole spectrum of scenarios to ensure you are fully informed but what you can’t teach is ‘bedside manner’   

Sounds terrible... 

Thinking of you both

What they both said.  Good grief they do put some totally inadequate people in the NHS at fortunately rare times, just not right that you got one

[apc2010]

So yesterday we had an appt with Oncologist.  Woman sitting down in office with file notes in front of her etc.  So we sit down . No introductions – she launches in with the “ Can you tell me your appraisal of what has happened so far and what you think are your results “

So the man gives a quick summary of what we think we know.  Then she starts to carefully and slowly repeat this whilst looking at the paperwork  and pulling more concerned faces. She looks at me and ask me what is wrong and so I simply say that I am obviously waiting for her to deliver some bad news as she seems to be leading up to this .

She doesn’t respond. Start going through the surgery results and talking of cells that could become active in the lymph nodes etc.  Then starts going on about chemo and the implications and 50% chance of return without and 25% return if have chemo etc. 

There was nothing positive in her demeanour at all . Then the nurse says oh I will go and get the Oncologist now !!!  WTF  - so you would presume she is in training  - not that she clarified anything at this point. Along  comes  the Oncologist  and goes through stuff in a bit more detail  – but my god we both came away yesterday feeling so low with all sorts of fears and dreads bubbling away.

Today we had an appt with the surgeon who performed op. She gave a completely different perspective and was focusing on the positives and next steps and making it all manageable etc. 

I totally appreciate they have to go through the whole spectrum of scenarios to ensure you are fully informed but what you can’t teach is ‘bedside manner’   

Sounds terrible... 

When my Ex had brain tumour we were "so lucky" with both surgeon and radiotherapist....but both them ripped the other staff ..for similar to your experiences ..

It is prob the most stressfull time in your life and some of these c88ts seem to forget ...

[Miss Demeanour]

Thinking of you both

Hoping for the best for you too Unc 

[Darwins Selection]

So yesterday we had an appt with Oncologist.  Woman sitting down in office with file notes in front of her etc.  So we sit down . No introductions – she launches in with the “ Can you tell me your appraisal of what has happened so far and what you think are your results “

So the man gives a quick summary of what we think we know.  Then she starts to carefully and slowly repeat this whilst looking at the paperwork  and pulling more concerned faces. She looks at me and ask me what is wrong and so I simply say that I am obviously waiting for her to deliver some bad news as she seems to be leading up to this .

She doesn’t respond. Start going through the surgery results and talking of cells that could become active in the lymph nodes etc.  Then starts going on about chemo and the implications and 50% chance of return without and 25% return if have chemo etc. 

There was nothing positive in her demeanour at all . Then the nurse says oh I will go and get the Oncologist now !!!  WTF  - so you would presume she is in training  - not that she clarified anything at this point. Along  comes  the Oncologist  and goes through stuff in a bit more detail  – but my god we both came away yesterday feeling so low with all sorts of fears and dreads bubbling away.

Today we had an appt with the surgeon who performed op. She gave a completely different perspective and was focusing on the positives and next steps and making it all manageable etc. 

I totally appreciate they have to go through the whole spectrum of scenarios to ensure you are fully informed but what you can’t teach is ‘bedside manner’   

Sounds terrible... 

When my Ex had brain tumour we were "so lucky" with both surgeon and radiotherapist....but both them ripped the other staff ..for similar to your experiences ..

It is prob the most stressfull time in your life and some of these c88ts seem to forget ...

Some people just shouldn't be in public-facing jobs. It's just not part of the requirement it seems these days.
Good luck. 

[Just One More]

Sounds horrendous Miss D. Thinking of the two of you x

[Nick]

Simpy awful. If it helps, they do tend to go for worst case scenarios, but some of them seem to lack basic human communication skills

[Miss Demeanour]

Simpy awful. If it helps, they do tend to go for worst case scenarios, but some of them seem to lack basic human communication skills

They probably misuse an apostrophe or two as well 

[Steve]

Simpy awful. If it helps, they do tend to go for worst case scenarios, but some of them seem to lack basic human communication skills

They probably misuse an apostrophe or two as well 

And have Marmite on their toast

[Miss Demeanour]

Eeeeeeeeeeeeewwwwwwwwww 

Road lickers 

[Miss Demeanour]

So this morning we have received a copy of a letter that the Oncologist has sent to the Surgeon (and that is being supplied to the GP)

There are 2 pages of medical blah blah and then she says to the surgeon " thank you for referring this nice man "   

Just struck me as odd and also what would they say if the patient was a pigging mare to deal with 

[Barman]

So this morning we have received a copy of a letter that the Oncologist has sent to the Surgeon (and that is being supplied to the GP)

There are 2 pages of medical blah blah and then she says to the surgeon " thank you for referring this nice man "   

Just struck me as odd and also what would they say if the patient was a pigging mare to deal with 

It could be code... 

[Miss Demeanour]

Oh what the ol reverse psychology thing - that would make more sense 

[Barman]

Oh what the ol reverse psychology thing - that would make more sense