Growler, in the words of Richard P. Feynmann's first wife "What do you care what other people think"
I for one have no idea what what your "own goal" was although because
you mentioned it I now would like to know more.
Bear baiting relys on fact that the bear always fights back. After all, you've never heard af "Ghandi baiting" have you?
Take a deep breathe, relax and come back. Remember, for someone to give offence, someone else has to take it.
This board is poorer for you going.