The trouble with raising kids is that there is no book of instructions. I have 5 (ish) ... the eldest will be 40 on 1st April (how appropriate is that!!!) and I am still trying to get it right. The only training is "on the job" and everyone of the little sods is different.
That is why I disagree with Tony Bliar & co about "Parenting" classes as a sentence to be handed down to me if my kid ends up before the beak. We all know that such things will be run by "Sincere" wimmin in indian print skirts, sandals, with unshaven legs and armpits and no stockings. Their toe nails will be over long and painted a garish colour and they will have body piercings.