Look ~ it is simple really.
Everything you do and everything you say is WRONG
Everything she says, everything she does and everything she thinks she has said or done is RIGHT
All you have to do is agree with her or not as she desires.
Are you taking notes? Because questions will be asked later ........
Next you have to anticipate her wishes, not what you THINK she may want but what she actually wants and factor in all the indecision and mind changing games that she will play and then admit that you are still wrong.
You must NEVER contradict her but you must not be a doormat or she will not respect you and will tell you so frequently. She will say that she doesn't want a doormat but she does want a "partner" (sub-text here is that she wants a partner who can read her mind and there is no way that will be you)
In fact what she really really wants is .............. well she doesn't actually know but she does know that whatever she has she doesn't want it.
About 10 years after our divorce Mrs S#1 told our daughter that she didn't realise at the time that what she really wanted from our marriage was there all along but that she hadn't recognised it because she didn't actually know what it was she was seeking. She admitted that she hadn't found it in her second marriage or in the several relationships she squandered en route to the current marriage. Never satisfied would about sum it up and I'm not talking
either.