Dunno yet but you know that you have balanced things right for five years or so when your stepson ( for want of a better word) talks to you about some concerns about skin cancer as he has moles on his willy.
He is a lovely young man and his mum died about 7 years ago when he was in his late teens. He was doing a gap year in Canada, his mum didn't want him to know how ill she was. As a consequence of that at (19/20 years old) he flew into Heathrow to be put in a quiet room where his dad (widowed about 10 hrs before) welcomed him home with the news that his mum had died.
Bah humbug. I would never have met these two very important men in my life had a rather lovely and good woman died.
I am off to count my blessings. I am so proud of this young man.
Serious mode off.