Latest teenage rant thread.

[GROWLER]

Nuffink Uncle 

Well what exactly have YOU done wrong then MD....in your opinion like?

You can't choose their friemds for them, and I personally think that that is where the majority of trouble can be traced back to in most cases.
It can be a bit of a lottery unforunately.

[Nick]

The Boy always seem to select kindred spirits as friends. Thus all his male friends are in the "very naughty" category and all his female friends are in the "dangerous tomboy" category 

[Snoopy]

If Uncle will forgive me.... Teenage girls are easier for a father to control than a mother. Mother is competition, Father is the provider of cash, kindness and most of all a safe male on which to try out their feminine wiles. Mother is everything they want to be BUT is seen as competition. It really is an Alpha female thing. Mothers and daughters usually become bestest friends but not until the child gets to about 18 ..... then they gang up on Father.
Growler is suffering this syndrome early because Mrs G is seen as a softer touch by mini moose and they gang upon him. Mrs S has more problems with THW than I do. It was just the same with first family and now eldest daughter has more trouble with her daughter than either the child's father or stepfather.
My opinion but reinforced by many learned books on the subject including one by Dr Miriam Stoppard but don't ask the title. I read it years ago.

[Nick]

My youngest sister is 8years older than me and I observed her teenage misbehaviour with astonishment. I will never forget the morning  she got home from a night out and told my mother that she had been to a party with the Rolling Stones (she had, this was 1964). My mother fainted 

[The Moan Ranger]

If Uncle will forgive me.... Teenage girls are easier for a father to control than a mother. Mother is competition, Father is the provider of cash, kindness and most of all a safe male on which to try out their feminine wiles. Mother is everything they want to be BUT is seen as competition. It really is an Alpha female thing. Mothers and daughters usually become bestest friends but not until the child gets to about 18 ..... then they gang up on Father.
Growler is suffering this syndrome early because Mrs G is seen as a softer touch by mini moose and they gang upon him. Mrs S has more problems with THW than I do. It was just the same with first family and now eldest daughter has more trouble with her daughter than either the child's father or stepfather.
My opinion but reinforced by many learned books on the subject including one by Dr Miriam Stoppard but don't ask the title. I read it years ago.

Wot he said.

[Nick]

Reverse the genders and it applies to boys too. I am the bad cop and Mrs Nick is the good cop. It has given us a lot of trouble 

[Miss Demeanour]

I don't like many of her friends tbh....they are all of the "it's not my fault " or "what have you done for me lately "  or " it's not fair "  

[Nick]

It'snot fair is so fooking infuriating 

[Snoopy]

Reverse the genders and it applies to boys too. I am the bad cop and Mrs Nick is the good cop. It has given us a lot of trouble 

That is how it works. When you have "Single parent" (how I hate that expression) households then there is no partner to leaven the mix. Thus Uncle will enjoy a reasonable relationship with daughters but Miss D will struggle.

Added to the normal problems you also have a whole generation of teachers and labour politicians (and labour aren't the only ones but they are the ones who have presided for the last 12 years) who specialise in telling children that they have rights, that parents are bad, that the state knows best etc etc.

I am not looking to start an argument about smacking but it didn't happen in my teen years and the only difference I can see is that children nowadays have acquired "rights" without learning about responsibility, nobody wallops them any more, not parents nor teachers. Discipline is the answer but how we get it back I have no idea.

[Uncle Mort]

I have a reasonable relationship with both my son and daughter. And, as far as I can tell, so does their mother. We were fairly strict when they were sproglets but they were never particularly 'naughty' anyway. Whether it's 'nature', 'nuture' or just plain luck they've both turned out to be good kids. (so far)

[Nick]

Do a swop.Simples, Miss D can have 2 well behaved teenagers and you can retrain the brat. Simples

[Miss Demeanour]

I am genuinely pleased that this is the case for you Uncle M - honestly - and hope it continues.

I don't particularly want to be self pitying but I do feel like it is such hard work at the moment. I do feel guilty that I am at work a lot but what is the alternative ?. She is old enough and mature enough to start thinking about others instead of herself all the time but sadly she chooses not to. She  has a selective memory that only consists of what she wants to hear.

I live in hope that this will change in the next few years.

The only sign I have seen that she even remotely cares was when I went to take some vitamin supplements this morning - the stupid cow thought I was taking an overdose   -

[Nick]

the stupid cow

There speaks the loving mother 

[Miss Demeanour]

Not today I'm not - today I am still really angry mother

[Nick]

That is fine. Permit yourself to be angry