Update.....
It is all over as of today, he has asked to just be friends and preserve both their marriages
My boss is most upset and asked if we could go to lunch so she could chat. So off we toddle to the coffee shop at lunch time. She buys the drinks and then sits down and starts to talk about how she feels and stuff - getting a bit upset. Then in walks the man in question, waves to the two of us , he goes and gets a coffee and then proceeds to plonk himself down and talk for half an hour about the recent sailing trip he went on with his wife and other stuff. He hasn't a clue I know anything
We all had to leave together and then boss came back and went a found a room to ball her eyes out in