Ooo new emocion thingy whatsits to play with.
JOM seems to be menopausal which is somewhat perplexing. 
Isn't there a saying about wimmin in hats,............. 
No knickers? 
That's women in fur coats 
Ex wife who was born in Sheffield always said Fur Coat = No Knickers
My Late Mother who was born in Southampton always said Red Shoes or Red Hat = No Knickers
And for balance Woodstock who was born in Essex says All Fur Coat and No Drawers to describe anyone who is all pretension and no substance she also refers to those frilly blinds seen in many front windows as "Tarts Knickers"
So it would seem to be a North/South thing