I passed my 11+ but 'choose' to go to the local comp as the grammer school for girls was miles away and travelling there would have been a problem.
I was the first one in my family to go to Uni and get a degree - there was no expectation from my mum that I would achieve that.
Whatever your circumstances are they will either inspire or demotivate you . I choose to work hard with the aim of moving miles and miles away to go to Uni and away from the bastard that my mum had been shacked up with for far too many years. It was either that or I would have killed him myself

Happily , after I moved mum moved back down to Somerset without the bastard and met my stepdad and they had almost 25 years of a good life together.